In this episode we chat with sexologist, author, social worker Dr Joe Kort about male sexuality and sex. We discuss – Gay sex – What is sexual fluidity? – What does non-binary mean? – Porn, good or bad? – The problem of men, sex & shame – Homosexual attractions in straight men – What does it mean to be gay & bi – What is sex therapy?
Yet still not a drag queen or trans person. There were other ones posted in the days I got these from but I felt one was enough. You can see the tally that Joe has been keeping. Hugs
The handmaids tale gets closer and closer as the republican run states fight to return the society to a much more regressive time when women were under more control of men. Hugs
The republicans know there is voter fraud because they are the ones doing it. I wonder if this guy will get five years in prison like the poor black woman who was told she could vote and did so but she did not qualify. Texas threw the maximum punishment at her. Hugs
Notice that he never thinks of women pilots. To him all piolets must be male and the ones in dresses or skirts are cross dressing men to his mind. What a bigoted piece of shit. Hugs
Drag queens are the newest boogieman of the right, easy targets to rile up their base that hopes for either the return to the 1950s or the 1850s depending how they feel about women and black people. Hugs
Notice it is only indoctrination and wrong when it is about acceptance / tolerance of diversity and minorities. Push hard right wing ideology is just reality for these republicans. Pushing an outdated 1950s style of society to them is normal but in truth that is the indoctrination they accuse the left of. They are trying hard to regress society and the acceptance of others who are different from them. They cannot live and let live. They must force everyone to fit the mold they demand they live in. The want a society where straight Christian males are assumed to be in charge, women are subservient to white straight men, blacks know their place and stay in it, and the gay and trans people are not seen or acknowledged in society staying firmly hidden in their closets. Hugs
As the article points out once born it is a child, living child and to kill it is already murder. By definition abortion is not being born. The bill is just grandstanding. Plus they don’t seem to learn, restricting abortion is not popular so they are doubling down and this time claiming that abortion is the killing of already born babies. Hugs
We must not admit that discrimination is real and happening even now. Afterall they don’t seem concerned about the discomfort the minority children of color and the LGBTQ+ kids experience every day, but we must never make the white kids uncomfortable. Actually it is not the kids’ comfort they care about, but the white republican parents. Hugs
If you read the comments you will see that several admissions directors commented that the persons scores were not that great and they look at social media along with other factors. They clearly seen something all of the schools disliked. Considering his complaint is non-whites are getting into the school while white males such as himself are waiting for a spot seems that he is a racist misogynist who they don’t want in their student body.
Because letting kids know that even in nature with animals there are gay couples will rot their teeth curve their spines and cause them to suddenly become gay or trans. What stupidity. Gay couples exist and are legal. Land of the free remember. They don’t want to hide straight couples from kids. They don’t think kids seeing straight couples is sexualizing the children or teaching them sex. It is simply bigotry, and they are not really hiding it. They want to erase the gays and trans from society and they are using the kids as the excuse. Hugs
The right wing doesn’t even want to be on their own platform because there is no one for them to fight with, these site ban liberals which takes the fun away from the trolls. Hugs
This was an attack on minority people of color and totally racist. It was a set of laws designed to let the state stop any protest for equality or the killing of unarmed black people by the police. They also passed a law saying that if protestors such as the George Floyd killing protestors got into the street they could legally be run over and arrested even when they had a permit. Yet when the Cubans who normally vote republicans protested in the street the government did not allow them to be run over nor did they arrest them. Strange it seems the law only applies to the left or democrats. Hugs
Notice he doesn’t admit Nixon broke the laws and did things that were illegal. Nope it is the fault of the people who caught him, and they are the bad guys. Hugs
I am posting this for the tic Tok video where the person lays it out how it is in the churches where the real grooming takes place, not schools or library book, nor drag queens reading stories. Hugs
A pastor from McLeansboro, Ill., was arrested Jan. 5 on two counts of grooming minors for sexual purposes. Garrett Biggerstaff was charged after a four-month investigation that included the seizure of his electronic devices and collection of evidence at his home.
Biggerstaff was taken into custody and booked at the Jefferson County Jail. His bond was set for $150,000.
Biggerstaff, 28, was employed by the Spring Garden School District in Ina, Ill., at the time, but he resigned when the investigation became public in November. He was also the pastor of Pleasant Grove Missionary Baptist Church in Fairfield. The church suspended Biggerstaff immediately.
Read the full article. The TikTok user below has something to say about this one.
A pastor from McLeansboro, Ill., was arrested Jan. 5 on two counts of grooming minors for sexual purposes. Garrett Biggerstaff was charged after a 4-month investigation that included the seizure of his electronic devices&collection of evidence at his home.https://t.co/WcLodDqhUq
It will take lawsuits and TV commercials about rape by clergyman. Lawyers talking about the cover up of abuse and how to fight back in order reach most people and create awareness. The news media has failed to get the message out on this danger in the churches.
All of that would have to happen for years to even make a dent. It’s very public how many diocese’ have gone bankrupt due to sexual abuse issues and still parents send their children off to the rectory unsupervised.
Absolutely. If people in small communities who rarely read the news began putting two and two together are realized that the problem starts in their own churches, we might begin to have some action on this front. It wasn’t until the accusations against the Catholic Church went mainstream that priests and other church employees began to be held accountable. Now do the Evangelicals!
Dear TikTok lady, I love you but you need to understand that they don’t care about children being abused in churches. Why not, because to point that out would hurt the feefees of churchy people and just like some white folk don’t want to be made uncomfortable because of our shared history, many christians would like the same treatment when it comes to the wholesale sexual abuse of children and others at the hands of religious leaders.
Please keep it up though. Many hands make big work small.
I have yet to see a mug shot of a drag queen who was arrested for molesting or “grooming” children. And you know that we would definitely see it if it ever happened.
Again they want the gay and trans people erased from society. They don’t want people to be themselves, they want everyone including their kids to be clones of them. These people don’t want freedom for others, they want the freedom to force you to have their views on everything. They are conservatives so say right wingers who feel it is OK to be rude and insulting but don’t like the fact that their children don’t think that is OK. In the article it says the parents don’t have an issue that their kids came out as gay which is a weird way to word saying that their kids are gay, but I don’t think they respected their children or their own ideas. I have delt with this before, such as when a family member refused to stop using the “N” word slur when talking about black people. The only thing you can do is refuse to be around them to get the point across. Being progressive and accepting the modern society is a cult to these people. She says the daughter made a big deal over a coffee cup, but in fact the mother is the one who refused a cup due to the rainbow flag on it. So the real issue is the parents are bigots whose kids don’t want to be around bigots and the parents want to force their kids to become bigots like the parents are. I had to laugh at the way K. Yang talks about a global conspiracy to … make things better and less oppressive for everyone which the right / conservatives cannot tolerate. Hugs
“I never even considered trying to find a deprogrammer,” one mother said. “But I think it’s too late for me and my kids.”
A new trend seems to be all the rage for anti-LGBTQ+ parents, who have been increasingly touting the need to “deprogram” their progressive children and turn them conservative.
A recent report from the New York Post features a group of mothers who say their children refuse to talk to them after being “indoctrinated” with “gender and race ideology” by progressive high schools and colleges.
The article likens progressive values to being in a cult and details the mothers’ desire to find a “deprogrammer” to jolt their children back to reality.
The mothers were inspired by another story from the New York Post, that of Annabella Rockwell, a pharmaceutical fortune heiress, a rightwing activist, and a Mount Holyoke alumna who claimed that her mother hired a $300/day “deprogrammer” to turn her conservative after college.
“I saw Annabella’s story and my life turned upside down,” said 54-year-old Beth Pensky, whose son and daughter don’t speak to her.
“I realized I wasn’t alone and I saw what happened to her was similar to what I think happened to my kids. I never even considered trying to find a deprogrammer. I didn’t know they existed. But I think it’s too late for me and my kids. They won’t even talk to me.”
A mother named Dorothy, whose last name was not given, also connected to Rockwell.
“Reading about Annabella was the first time I connected the dots to everything that had happened with my daughter,” she said.
“She had what she called ‘an awakening’ and became very angry at me and her father. It was a big personality change. We are conservatives so [our political views] became a huge problem. We were not allowed to visit her on campus. She went on a mission to convert her brother against us. She told him that he should be against us because we’re conservatives and that we all should be against men.”
Pensky and Dorothy also both claimed they did not have any problem with the fact that they each had daughters come out as gay. Rather, they say it was the way their daughters treated them in the aftermath that was the problem.
The article also featured an anonymous mother of five daughters who she claimed were turned against her by the upscale New York City private school Dalton and then further lured into the cult of progressivism in college.
“The emotional stress is unbelievable,” she said. “I consider myself a Democrat and a liberal but it doesn’t matter. I’ve had fights with some of my girls just because I wouldn’t get myself a Rainbow pride Starbucks cup. The cup itself became this huge battleground. Apparently it matters what cup you hold.”
And the deprogramming business is apparently booming.
36-year-old K. Yang was once a trans and gay rights activist who used they/them pronouns but has since “deprogrammed” herself. She said she is extremely busy these days as a full-time deprogrammer
Yang’s website claims to be “exposing the trans agenda.”
“There’s a war for our bodies & minds and it’s all connected,” it says.
Yang touts the ideology of Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminists (TERFs), claiming that advancing trans rights somehow contributes to a lessening of rights for cisgender women.
“A lot of these parents are completely bewildered,” Yang told the Post. “A lot of them noticed a marked difference in their children’s behavior. Then all of a sudden ‘she’ identifies as ‘he.’ A lot of this is like a cult except parents don’t realize their child is being indoctrinated — not from an old-fashioned cult that takes you away somewhere but through schools and their devices. This is happening to kids everywhere, even those with a robust family life.”
Yang claimed there is a global conspiracy to “restructure society” that goes all the way up the United Nations.
“They are undermining the sexually dimorphic nature of reality and breaking down the differences between the sexes to break down our identity. They are constructing identities for us and they want us to adopt them.”
The article even featured the so-called “father of deprogramming,” 92-year-old Ted Patrick who was known in the 1970s and 1980s for helping parents “deprogram” their kids who had fallen victim to cults. Patrick’s controversial practices led to multiple jail sentences and dozens of indictments on grounds like kidnapping and conspiracy.
Patrick claims young people today are in a state of emergency and essentially says they should be kidnapped to fix it.
“It’s worse now than it was then,” Patrick said. “But parents are more scared and weak than they were then. You’ve got to get these kids alone. I’ve snatched people from Yale. I deal with the mind. You have to go into the mind, into that container, and bring the real person out. Once you get the person out you have to get the person thinking again — thinking like a critical thinker.”
Damn, Damn, Damn! Joe My God had two of these today. All religious leaders but not a single one a drag queen or a trans person. This one left me raw, maybe because it is late and I had a rough day but more likely if I admit the truth because of what the victims said. I admit that I had to stop reading after that and go get an alcohol filled drink. Even Odie who is sacked out on my desk lifted his head to look at me when I let out my gasp of anguish at this. I won’t be graphic but those who have not been taken against their will / wishes really don’t understand the feelings those things bring up in those of us who have. Even typing this I have had to wipe the tears from my eyes and blow my nose. And this is not in anyway graphic! It is just I can fill in the gaps, I know … Damn I know and at nearly 60 years old I still cannot forget. Anyway it is a worthwhile read. Hugs
The Kansas Bureau of Investigation also cited 400 alleged victims of Catholic sexual abuse since 1950
Catholic priest with hands on his head (image via Shutterstock)
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Afour-year investigation into Kansas’ Catholic churches has found 188 alleged predators suspected of committing “aggravated criminal sodomy, rape, aggravated indecent liberties with a child and aggravated sexual battery.”
The report also says there were 400 victims of sexual abuse in the Kansas archdioceses since 1950, but in most of those cases, either the clergy member has died or the statute of limitations has long expired.
The [Kansas Bureau of Investigation] originally focused on reports of clergy sexual abuse in the state’s four Roman Catholic dioceses — Wichita, Salina, Dodge City and Kansas City, Kansas. It later expanded to include the Society of St. Pius X, a breakaway Catholic group known for its traditional Latin Mass with a large branch in St. Marys in northeast Kansas.
Some of the victims withheld vital information from investigators because they said they had signed non-disclosure agreements. In many cases, the report said, Church leaders failed to report allegations of abuse to law enforcement, failed to keep records of those allegations, and failed to conduct thorough internal investigations.
And, just as you’d suspect, there were instances where accused priests were merely shuffled to another parish while remaining on the Church’s payroll.
It’s a predictable yet troubling account of what we’ve seen in state after state ever since attorneys general began taking these matters seriously. After a Pennsylvania grand jury report came out in 2018, the floodgates opened. In some states, laws were enacted to put power back into the hands of victims by reopening a window for filing sexual abuse lawsuits that had previously been closed due to statutes of limitations. It’s not clear how Kansas politicians will act moving forward.
Whatever they do, if they do anything, it’ll be too late for some:
A few of the victims the task force dealt with were in prison and attributed that in part to the sexual abuse they’d endured as children, the report said.
“Our agents witnessed men, now in their 60s and 70s, break down in tears as they reported their sexual abuse to our team,” it said. “In many cases they have never previously disclosed the sexual abuse to anyone.
“Many times the victims thought they were the only victim of the offending priest. Following appropriate investigative interviews and actions, some victims learned for the first time they were not the only one the priest had abused.”
Some of the alleged victims had also died by suicide.
There are a couple of silver linings, that is if there can really be any in a situation like this.
One is that this investigation was requested by a Republican attorney general (Derek Schmidt), in response to a request from Kansas City Archdiocese Archbishop Joseph Naumann, which came after lawyers identified 15 clergy members who “warranted further investigation.” The people who may seem least likely to take these matters seriously did the right thing, though it’s possible public pressure had a lot to do with that.
The other is that the Church appears to be taking these matters more seriously. Too little, too late, no doubt, but it’s something. The allegations are more likely to have occurred decades ago than recently. That said, only a few dozen priests accused of abuse have been identified by name by the four dioceses in Kansas. The report suggests there are many more where those came from.
I would also highlight the report’s list of how the Catholic Church, despite cooperating with the KBI, hindered the investigation. The KBI cites non-disclosure agreements, Church officials using language that “minimized the seriousness or severity” of abuse, a failure to report abuse allegations to law enforcement, a lack of “transparent communication” with parishioners about the allegations, horrible recordkeeping policies, inadequate internal investigations, and an inability to hold people accountable for their roles in the abuse.
We knew a lot of those things already, but that means the Church’s willingness to assist with the investigation was hampered by the Church’s own actions in the past. The people who (sometimes unintentionally) destroyed evidence shouldn’t get much credit for supposedly opening their doors wide open to investigators.
As of now, no criminal charges have been filed in the 30 cases where the task force submitted affidavits. That’s likely because there are some hurdles (including death) that prosecutors can’t overcome. Justice will not be served in those cases.
Which means the only real consequence the Catholic Church in Kansas will ever face is the exodus of worshipers who call themselves Catholic. If you’re a Kansan who still attends or supports the Catholic Church with your time or money, you’re complicit in their actions. It’s not too late to break ties. Tradition is no excuse to prop up a criminal institution. If that leads to more of these dioceses going bankrupt, no one who cares about the victims is going to shed a tear. The Church has enough property and stashed artwork to sell to cover the costs of the trauma they’ve inflicted upon victims.
It’s long past time for the Catholic Church in Kansas (and everywhere else for that matter) to suffer for what it’s done to members.
HEMANT MEHTA
Hemant Mehta is the founder of FriendlyAtheist.com, a YouTube creator, podcast co-host, and author of multiple books about atheism. He can be reached at @HemantMehta. More by Hemant Mehta
A conservative hotline in Texas was created for concerned citizens to “report” any and all drag shows happening in the state. Once LGBTQ allies learned about it, well, this hotline got a little bit more than it bargained for.
A lot of the reason this happens in the US is because we teach our kids to fear anyone seeing their bodies. Kids in other advanced developed countries are as willing to show themselves to a stranger online hoping it will be a girl / boy they like willing to also show themselves. In other countries when the person really behind the scam comes out the kids are upset but they don’t freak out and give the person money or even worse more explicit videos. They do not kill themselves. Because they know they can go to the parents and tell them, they know that if their friends do get the videos / pictures because they shared their contacts unknowingly that no one will disown them or freak out. Yes they will get teased but it is not the end of the world. Hell in the US adults are still trying to ban porn like it is the 1950s. In the US until the middle to late 1960s it was common for schools that had pools to have the boys swim nude and the girls wear suits often in the pool /pool area at the same time. I have seen the pictures and read the stories. No one cared as it was the custom / tradition before the US got hyper modest and back to being prudish. Here in the US I have read of a rash of kids killing themselves after giving the perpetrator everything they had, hundreds of dollars and including more pictures / videos but they are too scared to tell the parents or let the pictures videos out to their contacts especially if they were gay based. Kids too afraid of their parents seeing their genitalia that they would give a stranger all the money they had and then kill themselves. Teens too afraid of their own friends seeing their junk that they are willing to do anything including kill themselves. In the US we have taken prudishness and weird anti-sex / anti-genitals to the point it is killing our kids. Yet the republicans only focus on stopping any self-enjoyment to force young adults to marry and have more babies just to experience sex. As long as it is the correct kind of sex of course. Hugs
If anyone wonders , yes the blogging computer is down. I had to swap secondary drives, and the last time I updated the computers I ruined my good newest windows 10 USB drive, so I had to use a very old one that caused its own problems and after several hours of installing I had to reset windows itself downloading it off the internet from Microsoft so I can complete the install. So here are some videos on Christmas day for everyone while I fix my blogging computer. Happy whatever holiday you celebrate today for everyone, my hope for you is you have the greatest fun, the tastiest food, and are with people you enjoy if that is your thing. Hugs
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