Mom shares why she let her 17-year-old get top surgery. His face says it all.

https://www.upworthy.com/mom-explains-trans-sons-top-surgery

Thank you, Ali, for the link, just sorry it took me so long to post it.   Hugs

I am waiting for the screaming comments about kids getting life changing surgeries, about kids / minors having body parts chopped off when they are too young to understand it.  So before you get stupid and write that comment, read the entire story.  Then think about the fact that kids as young as 13 and 14 years old get charged as adults in the US.  Kids / minors as young as 12 get married in many states in the US, a very life changing even they are too young to understand.  Kids / minors are being forced to carry pregnancies to term no matter how young (one was only ten), giving birth to children while they are children if they survive the ordeal which is a life-changing event / surgery that they are way too young to begin to understand or consent to.  Plus breast surgery is common for young females in the US with girls 16 or younger getting reductions or enlargements as gifts from parents, and a popular surgery for minors is rhinoplasty.  Yes kids / minors getting nose trims.   The point is that many surgeries happen for kids, especially wealthy and or white kids.  Look up the stats before you start screaming about kids being mutilated.   Even more important is the saving of lives that transitioning does for trans kids, those studies are real, well documented, and are available for the haters to see anytime they could put their hate aside long enough to read them.    Hugs

“Cody’s heart is so full…”

trans kids, gender affirming care, top surgery
@jannatransmomma/TikTok

Living in truth is beautiful.

Top surgery, otherwise known as chest feminization or chest masculinization, is a gender-affirming procedure that changes the looks of a trans person’s chest. For female-to-male top surgery, breast tissue is removed to give a more masculine appearance for transgender males and non-binary people who are assigned female at birth.

This procedure, along with all forms of gender-affirming care, is surrounded by stigma and misinformation, especially when it comes to minors. Many parents fear that a teen could make a severe, irreversible decision regarding their gender presentation, given that adolescence is a time when the whole subject of identity is in flux.

It’s partially fears like this that have resulted in gender-affirming care receiving a wave of backlash in America, even being labeled as a form of child abuse.

However, a mom by the name of Janna, who recently helped her 17-year-old son receive top surgery, sees it as a form of love.

“Why would I ever allow my 17-year-old to have top surgery? Why would I do that? That’s insane. That’s crazy. It’s child abuse,” says Janna in a clip posted to TikTok.

Her reasoning is really quite simple—and something that almost every parent can relate to in one way or another.

“You look at the really, really happy kid who walked out of the doctor’s office today, feeling really great about himself for the first time in I don’t even know how long.”

Janna then put the spotlight on her son Cody and asked what it felt like when he saw his chest for the first time.

Getting instantly teary, Cody replied, “Normal…It finally feels right for the first time.”

Janna’s video is captioned “Cody’s heart is so full right now.”

Watch:

 

Janna, who regularly advocates for trans rights, has previously explained in another TikTok that Cody didn’t undergo any surgery until just before his 18th birthday, and that was only after “a lot of meetings” with doctors, therapists and both of his parents since coming out at the age of 15.

 

And prior to his procedure, Janna encouraged Cody to explore through a “social transition,” rather than a medical one. This basically means experimenting with other forms of gender presentation—changing their name, pronouns, wardrobe, etc.—that feel more fitting to their authentic identity before undergoing any surgeries.

Bottom line: “We are not just sending these kids to surgeons to have body parts removed. That doesn’t happen,” Janna stated.

 

When parents support their kids throughout their journey, “one of two things is going to happen,” she added. “They’re going to come out as trans when they’re old enough to really make that decision, or they’re going to say, ‘Yeah, I’m not really a boy.'”

“Either way,” she continued, “their relationship with you will not be tarnished because they know that my mom loved me no matter what my decisions were.”

Like every other turbulent and confusing chapter of teenage-hood, the waters are so much easier to navigate (for both the parent and the child) when there is compassion. Sometimes allowing kids to be who they really are is the best gift a parent can provide.

 

 

 
 
 
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9 thoughts on “Mom shares why she let her 17-year-old get top surgery. His face says it all.”

  1. I have another one, too! It’s from “Alas, a Blog,” so I sent you an email, but Google also let me open it today, so here’s a link here, too: https://amptoons.com/blog/?p=27158 . There are interesting factual contrasts in how easily young cis people get exactly the same treatments that young trans people fight for for years. Hmm. You’ve actually pointed that out before here, Scottie.

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    1. Hello Ali. Sorry, I am late to replying. Yes this cartoon makes it clear these religious right wing haters have no issue with the same medical drugs that help cis people, but anything that might change the dynamic of the stereotype of men / women is totally evil and they must fight it forever. I posted this cartoon before I got to your comment, but it is still valid. The point as I said on the right is to deny that men or women’s roles as defined by hyper religious leaders can be changed. A woman stopping being a subservient second tier person to being equal to a real cis man must not be allowed. As for men that are willing to become that second tier person is totally not allowed as that means that men not being in charge is negotiable or changeable. It is a really sick drive to keep males in charge and women doing what men don’t want to do. I recently saw a video of the right wing macho Steven Crowder laying on a lawn chair while his very pregnant with twins asked him to please let her use the car for the errands he demanded she do. He warned her repeatedly to remember her place and do her womanly duties as she complained about doing the list of chores he assigned her, which included putting very strong chemicals on their dogs that she was scared would harm the babies she carried. At one point he warned her she was crossing a line about not being woman enough. Remember he was lounging on a chaise lawn chair. But it was her duty and she must work like a slave to keep him happy as he did nothing. That is the male fundamentalist religious white supremacy view of how their life should be. They no longer can have black slaves so their women must fill that role. It disgusts me, it angers me, but there is no way you can get the “Kool-Aid” drinking maga assholes to understand how wrong this is. I just can not understand how women vote for the Republican Party. Hugs

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      2. They’re married to Republican men who believe the same way as the guy in the lounge chair. And too many of them are wimpy women who have been “trained” by the church to obey their husbands.

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    1. Hello Jill. And the thing is the boy was one month shy of 18. So this gets back to when is a young person an adult able to make their own decisions and way in life. But the point so many miss that you understood, this is a person that knew who they were at the youngest age and told that to their trusted parent when they were sure / comfortable doing so.

      I often ask those people who claim that being gay is a choice when they decided to be straight. Did they just feel that way, or did they make a choice between being attracted to penises or vaginas along with breasts? Or reverse it, when did they as a girl growing up decide that they really were attracted to female body parts and not the expected male body parts. No one does that. We just know inside ourselves. And it is ok to be different, unless you are insisting on keeping the male dominating society. It is not really a sexual attraction thing for these people forcing this on others but a need for white males to remain in charge. Hugs

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      1. Hello Ali. I have done that also, embarrassing isn’t it? I have been watching videos on this. Can you imagine how transphobic and misogynistic this is? The right likes to use body changes to justify anti transmen in sports hate. But there is no way body changes or shape effects chess. It destroys the entire anti-trans people in sports arguments. Chess is a brain activity, and what these people are saying is men have better brains than women. Hugs

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