Ron’s brother passed at about 4 pm today. His long time friend was holding his hand. How is Ron doing … he is simply denying and emotional involvement.
We already made plans for the next steps. But first Ron has to make all the phone calls to family and friends, and his brother’s long time boyfriend. We had gone to the bank and gotten a credit card in case Ron needed it. We had money in our savings, but Ron was worried … understandably and he does have to go to New Hampshire. But now tomorrow he has to go to the Ford Dealer and have the car serviced. I just suggested to him his favorite older sister fly into our area and they go up to NH together. He likes the idea. Go to go, lots going on. Best wishes, hugs, loves. Scottie
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Sending all peace and comfort to you, Ron, and the rest of Ron’s family, too.
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Thank you Ali. It is going to be a rough few weeks. Ron’s sister will arrive around 11 pm Sunday night. Monday morning they will make the 12 hour trip to the town in NC where the nursing home is. I guess they will stay overnight. Then they have to on Tuesday do the nursing home stuff, the cremation stuff, get the Urn. Ron is not sure when they will be home. Hugs. Scottie
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Well, I hope they’re gentle with themselves, and rest in between tasks. None of us is in our 30s anymore. Bless you all.
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A detached attitude helped me get through certain events but the collapse after dealing with the one-thing-after-another part, after a pause and some sleep… that collapse has lasted two years so far. Ron has you so I hope and expect he recovers more quickly.
Grow in peace, Scottie
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Hi MDavis. Sorry things built up so much on you. Yes I think I can help him. But right now he is running on just dealing with what needs to be done. All the plans made yesterday just got changed today. That is the frustrating thing now for us. Ron’s sister changed her plans, extending her stay here, and now one of his brothers wants to meet them in NC which means everyone has to try to line up time frames. Plus they need to get stuff done before the weekend or it stretches into next week because nothing can be done on the weekend. Which would mean missing flights and longer hotel stays. Oh well. It is what it is. Be well friend. Hugs. Scottie
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Walk in Beauty …
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Thank you Ten Bears. That is one of the most beautiful grand ways to express death I have ever heard. Many people including Ron have beliefs about life after death. I wish I could. And when all the stress of arrangements slow down, I know it will hit him and he will want to believe his brother is still there somewhere. He often claims that in dreams his mother or other people who were important to him growing up are talking to him. I try not to rain on his parade and spoil his feelings. He knows I am too based in natural science. If it can not be show by scientific means, I cannot accept it as real. But I do believe in live and let live as long as one doesn’t hurt others. Ron believing in a different plane of existence where his family and friends are … well OK let him have it. It don’t hurt anyone and helps him. Best wishes. Hugs. Scottie
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It is a traditional native greeting, both coming and going, though remarkably Zen
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