OK I love making this post, it is the one I love the most, even while I feel keeping people up to date on the assaults on civil rights is also just as important. But I need to explain why this post won’t be posted on the date that it normally would be. And that is because my health failed just as the US Government thugs wanted the US public health to fail.
Let us move back in time. By Thursday Ron noticed my posting and my frantic need to get them all done was increasing and he warned me to back down a bit. Ron is 70 yrs old and knows what we went through when I drastically over reached my abilities and he is terrified of my 2014 breakdown. My body shuts down and in 2013 when I did that it lead to my total breakdown in 2014 when my body started “eating itself” my way of saying that I was going into organ failure. Every doctor I had at that time told me to stop, but I did not want to as I loved what I was doing … and I ended up with a total break from reality for a year refusing to leave my bedroom. It took Randy, my doctors, and Ron almost a year to get me out of that situation.
So since then, Ron has become sensitive when I might be slipping back into that again. Which leads to where I am at now.
By the end of the week on Thursday Ron was asking me to back off. I was manic about posting. I was so filled with glee about how much I was pushing out. I had done my daily stuff and still had saved articles I wanted to post the next day. He saw the progression coming. So he asked me if I wouldn’t rather do other stuff than post. I misunderstood and thought he meant do stuff like cook dinner or make bread, stuff I love doing, but then after I went back to the blog. It negated what he was trying to distract me from.
Friday he left me alone thinking I would run out of stuff to post so it would be OK. But then came Sunday and the News Shows. I set up my TV recording equipment and I delve into them, something Ron hates. I get so upset over the bias on each show and start getting so upset and shouting at the playback that I have to keep the door closed and Ron doesn’t want my commentary afterward.
That was when Ron noticed that my health went fully bad. He was worried before. But on Sunday he saw me getting more and more pale. But I kept pushing forward. He asked me many times to stop posting and instead join him in other activities. I told him I had too much backlog of posting to do and besides I don’t really like the same things he does. I did not realize it was an attempt to distract me from what was now becoming and has been for a long time my obsession. Plus I was getting ill and did not understand.
On Monday I woke barely able to walk. During the night Ron had watched me as I went from fear / anger / begging / and when I got up earlier than him I did not know any of this. We were to go out and do our big grocery shopping but I did not feel up to it at all. But I was willing and when he got up I told him that.
Ron then said instead of going out he asked me if he could do some checks with our medical equipment and I agreed and why not. Then I told Ron that if we did not need to go out I would rather not. He then told me I was pale, I kept saying I was very very tired and not seeming right at all. I told him I was just tired, a bit of rest and I would be fine. I tried to post and really couldn’t, nothing seem to connect for me. Then came the moment of truth. I started throwing up. But I hid that from Ron.
Ron looked into my open office door and seen me with my head hanging down struggling to function. He asked me if I was OK! And the first two times I said yes as I was just resting, the third time I was going out and he was not going to accept that and forced me to bed as I started to throw up again. I had not eaten much if anything but my body was at its limit.
I went to bed with Ron’s assistance and his insistence. I slept for 11 hours uninterrupted only twice getting up to urinate. I woke up this morning on Tuesday with a clear head, my stomach not trying to reject my being, and we went out and got our groceries. A post I will make some other time.
This post is not so much about my failure to understand how frail my body is nor about how protective Ron has become over me in our life, but it is just what I hope will be the warning of how the tRump people want to make our lives so difficult that we suffer for even standing up to them. I will stand up to them and post their horrific activities but … maybe not to the extent that it causes me to throw up and fall asleep at my desk. Thank you. Hugs.
Oh and the post that should have gone out today will somehow go out tomorrow. Hugs
This is dreadful, Scottie. You must take better care of yourself! I understand the obsession bc I share it to some extent, but we gotta take breaks and breathe.💐Hugs, Annie
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Hi Annie. Thank you. What happened was I had backed off blogging the year before so I could put my time and energy to doing all the keeping home chores including making all the meals, doing dishes, doing laundry, and caring for the cat so that Ron could focus on the repairs needed to the house and outside stuff. But when his sister came for a couple of weeks Ron stopped his projects and she along with him took over all the house chores so I could go back to full time blogging. Ron noticed how happy I was.
When she left he went back to doing the repairs and outside stuff and expected me to do all the keeping the house stuff. Hard for me to blog when I am making three meals a day, doing dishes for a couple of hours, doing laundry, and everything else. I normally can not stay up more than 12 hours before the pain my body requires me to go to bed. So my day was filled with that stuff.
But this time I did not stop doing the blogging, posting, reading and replying to comments which I love, and reading others blogs like yours. I kept doing that along with the other stuff. I simply was burning my candle at both ends and really hot. It only took a short time for my body to start to fail. My doctors have all warmed me to avoid stressing my body as it reacts badly to it.
So on Tuesday we talked. I was clear with Ron I couldn’t do both the entire house stuff and the blogging I want to do. I asked him if he wanted me to give up blogging like before? He realized what he was asking of me. So we agreed he would help out more even if it slowed what he wanted to do and I would be more careful not to get so worn out and tired, being honest and telling Ron when I was needing to rest. But we both agree I am happier when I can be here doing the blogging stuff. Hugs
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Scottie, I’m glad you and Ron have worked out a compromise that sounds practical and doable. This is such a tough time that is stressing us all. We must, I believe, practice loving kindness to ourselves and others as much as possible so we can keep up our strength to end the madness.
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Thank you, Annie. As a person who was in the military twice swearing an oath to the constitution I what the tRump people demand of military people is horrifying to me and what they demand people do giving obedience to the cult leader tRump.
But yes Ron and I do normally do that. We have always looked out for each other. As my health went bad when we first went to Florida and I couldn’t walk anymore, Ron was always my biggest supporter and went to every doctor’s visit to make sure I was treated properly. Hugs
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Well, this time you have grabbed a handle on it, and gotten a little rest. Maybe set yourself a goal for number of posts, then stop for the day. And no looking for tomorrow’s posts, let them come to you tomorrow! (Except right now, the Josh Day set is live, so I’m setting it up for tomorrow AM, so who am I to tell you anything… )
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Hi Ali. I love the idea. But I think Ron and I worked it out. He realized it had gotten too easy to shift stuff to me and I was not complaining over the time only when I was in a lot of pain and needed more medication. Which is a sign that I am pushing myself too hard. So we have an agreement that he will not put so much on me and I will stop before I get so worn down, before it hurts so much, and I will ask him for help if I need.
As for the posts. I have ten open tabs from my cartoon / meme post I want to get to after I do the dishes. 😁😂😋😎 But I also want to save time to read other peoples blogs. The important thing is I stop or tell Ron before I get so tired or worn out. That scared him. He had not seen me that out of it in a long time. I was going down and he got scared. It woke him up to what was happening. Hugs
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