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If You Behaved Like God
Wow this short animated video shows how silly / and abusive the Fundamentalist version of the Christian God is! Hugs Scottie.
My Shadow is Pink by Scott Stuart – Official Read Along
Earlier I posted the version that had no words. I wished I had known this version was out there. It is about the same except this one has the words in the book, which are also on the screen for you to read along. Plus the CC is really good. Again this is based on real life. His young boy knew in his heart who he was and was not. In real life as in the book, the dad helped his son by accepting who he is, not trying to make him what he is not. I don’t know if the boy is trans, but I have seen him dressed in princess outfits with more boyish style hair and no real makeup. So he maybe gender fluid or nonbinary. It doesn’t matter, accepting young people even children for who they are and giving them the chance to grow and be, to learn for themselves who they are is what is important. Oh, I should mention this inoffensive book about a dad’s love helping him accept his son is one of the most banned books and a constant target of the fundamentalist Christians and maga right wing crowd. Mom’s for liberty and Mom’s of TikTok hate this book and claim it is porn and teaches sexualization of little kids. Hugs. Scottie
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Kian Lilien as: Boy Ryan Andes as: Dad Music: Celebration by Stephen Keech (license: YHDSPSYOVPCDAOSJ)
Euphoric | An Animated Short Film
Charlie Brown Reunion …
Thank you Ten Bears for the grand video. It does show a realistic side to a group growing up. Far more than the weird “Friends” show did. I wonder how that group would have faired in their later years. Hugs. Scottie
5 Words And Phrases Democrats Should Never Say
And What To Replace Them With
We talk about the “Death Tax” and not “Estate Tax.” Two little words “Death Panels” were capable of nearly derailing the best thing that’s happened to health insurance in this country in decades. Harvard-educated President Obama is universally considered “elite,” while Yale-educated George W. Bush is considered “down home.”
Many Democrats buy into the old saw that the Democratic party has had a history of “tax and spend” policies that needs to change or be lived down somehow. Until the Occupy movement brought the topic front and center, even most Democrats accepted the notion that businesses were “job creators” and worried more about distracting the opposition from this “fact” than debunking it for the lie it actually is.
Unfortunately, this is because Democrats have failed to speak in a language strong enough to rebut Republicans who have defined who we are and what we want, in a way that doesn’t even remotely reflect an iota of the truth, and instantly conjures up the negative in the mind of the listener.
HOW TO TALK LIKE A REPUBLICAN
Professional media strategist Frank Luntz has been providing Republicans with a detailed handbook on exactly what language to use and not to use for decades. He has built up a lexicon that is not only far-reaching and deeply ingrained, but also very, very successful. As Progressive Democratic linguist George Lakoff explains it, this “framing” is crucial to how they’ve managed to win so much of the debate.
Here are some examples from Luntz’s handbooks, of how the Republican party has been taught to frame the way they talk:
Don’t say “bonus!”Luntz advised that if [corporations] give their employees an income boost during the holiday season, they should never refer to it as a “bonus.”
“If you give out a bonus at a time of financial hardship, yo4’re going to make people angry. It’s ‘pay for performance.'”
Don’t say that the government “taxes the rich.”This sleight-of-tongue has managed to manipulate at least half the country into believing things that simply are not true. And this type of language mash-up has been so successfully drilled into the vernacular, that Democrats have been hard-pressed to come up with a simple and just-as-effective way to expose the lies beneath them.Instead, tell [people] that the government “takes from the rich.”
“If you talk about raising taxes on the rich,” the public responds favorably, Luntz cautioned. But “if you talk about government taking the money from hardworking Americans, the public says no.”
See the 5 Words Democrats Should Never Say Again after the jump.
DEMOCRATS NEED A HANDBOOK OF OUR OWN
How can Democrats and Progressives fix this? Start by never saying any of the following five words or phrases again.
1. Never say Entitlements.
Instead, say Earned Benefits.
While the word “entitlement” was originally coined by Democrats as a way to illustrate that the receiver of the attached benefits was entitled to them by having worked to earn them, or having been taxed to support them, it has been re-defined by the right as akin to a spoiled child who acts as if they’re “entitled” even though they are not.
“Earned benefits,” on the other hand, cannot be twisted or misconstrued to mean anything other than what what they are: something the recipient has actually earned, as opposed to something they are being given. Social Security and Medicare are paid into through taxes deducted from employees’ paychecks, or the paychecks of one’s spouse or parent. No one who hasn’t either personally paid into these programs, or been the spouse or child of someone who has paid into these programs, or, in the case of Medicare Part B, paid a monthly premium in order to receive them, can extract benefits from these programs.
Here is a perfect example of how the right wing uses the word “entitled” as a pejorative associated with Democrats (emphasis mine):
“Fluke is an entitled liberal, which is both emblematically typical and essentially required for one to be a liberal in today’s American political landscape … Her talking points represent a very real attitude quickly manifesting itself into mainstream American thought process: that a person literally deserves the resources of another. This, of course, is the entitlement and dependency culture on which the Democratic Party has rallied around, encouraged, campaigned, and insisted.“Democrats have done nothing of the sort. Recall that the subject at hand is insured individuals. That means that they have paid into the pool in order to be able to take resources out later when needed. Even if the check was dispersed by their employer, it’s still their benefit as employees, paid out in the form of insurance coverage in lieu of cash compensation. Not to mention any shared responsibility the employee, or in Sandra Fluke’s case, the student, may have in paying the monthly premium. (For the record, students at Georgetown University where Sandra Fluke is a student, pay 100% of their own premium toward their student health insurance.)Do not allow the right wing to frame this issue in their terms. These are Earned Benefits. Say that.
2. Never say Redistribution of Wealth.
Instead, say Fair Wages For Work.
When we hear “redistribution,” we think in terms of simply moving things around, not something earned by someone. And when you tack the word “wealth” onto it, everybody’s hackles immediately go up. “What do you mean, redistribute my wealth? You don’t get to take something from me and give it to someone else! I work hard for what I get; let other people work for their own money, not mine!”
But when we hear “fair wages for work,” we know instantly that we are talking about paying working people a fair wage for the work they’re doing, not giving them something they haven’t actually earned. Since at least 1965, Republican policies have created a corporate culture that only rewards those at the very, very, very top of the pyramid. While the average “hourly wage” equivalent for CEOs has gone from $490.31 to $5,419.97 ($11,273,537.00 / year), the average hourly wage for workers has stagnated at $19.71. That’s just $40,997.00 / year. The same $40,997.00 that we were earning in 1965. At 2012 inflation. We need fair wages for our work* in today’s dollars. Say that.
3. Never say Employer Paid Health Insurance.
Instead, say Employee Earned Health Insurance.
When we say “employer paid,” we immediately think of it as something that’s given to the employee by their employer. But as I pointed out in my blog post, “It’s Not About Who Writes The Check—Stop The Republican Lie About Who Pays For Contraceptives,” all employee health insurance is earned by virtue of the employee’s labor. That makes it “paid for” by the employee, even if they aren’t the ones writing the checks to the insurance companies themselves. Employee health insurance is just one of several forms of compensation in exchange for labor, that include cash, retirement funds, long- and short-term disability coverage, etc.
Employee health insurance is not a “gift,” it is compensation in exchange for labor. Cease the labor and the compensation ceases right along with it. Employees earn their insurance. Say that.
4. Never say Government Spending.
Instead, say we Invest in America.
When we hear “spending,” we automatically think of going shopping and whipping out the credit card. And while government at every level often leverages their ability to borrow at low interest rates to fund their spending, it’s hardly the same thing as going out and buying a dress you’re only going to wear once and then hanging in the closet until it’s out of style.
What governments actually do is invest in our cities, states, country and our people. Government invests in infrastructure that affords us the ability to move around freely. It invests in programs that train people with job skills. It invests in research that cures diseases. There is an actual benefit to “spending” when a government does it, which actually makes it an investment in all our futures.
And who is “the government”? We The People. It’s a Constitutional phrase that evokes strong support for whatever follows. Democrats need to take Constitutional language back from the Republican party and make it ours again, since Democratic principles of equality and liberty were the driving forces behind the creation of this great nation in the first place.
We are investing in our future.
Say it this way. Every time.
5. Never say Corporate America.
Instead, say Unelected Corporate Government.
Calling businesses “Corporate America” gives the impression that somehow corporations are the same as human Americans. But in spite of what the current Supreme Court would have you believe, they aren’t.
In fact, in many ways in our daily lives, we are governed far more by corporations than we are by governments. Corporations govern where we shop, what we pay for goods and services, who gets access and who doesn’t, how we communicate and what we pay for that privilege, and so on.
But more importantly, Corporations govern us by buying our legislators to do their bidding with campaign donations, and by actually writing legislation that makes it into our law books. Corporations govern when they privatize formerly-public, taxpayer-funded institutions, like schools, prisons and military operations. And unlike actual governments, they do it solely for their benefit and profits, not those of real American citizens.
And if there’s one thing we know the right wing zealots claim not to like the most, it’s “government interference in our lives.” So what’s worse than the government we actually elect to make our laws “interfering in our lives”? It’s a government structure that we didn’t even elect interfering in our lives.
Corporations are not “Corporate America,” they are Unelected Corporate Government. Describe them that way and people will come to resent their presence in our public policy-making.
In closing, turning once again to Professor Lakoff, “Unfortunately, Luntz is still ahead of most progressives responding to him. Progressives need to learn how framing works. Bashing Luntz, bashing Fox News, bashing the right-wing pundits and leaders using their frames and arguing against their positions just keeps their frames in play. … Progressives have magnificent stories of their own to tell. They need to be telling them nonstop. Let’s lure the right into using OUR frames in public discourse.”
Let’s start doing that by never saying any of the above five words and phrases again.
Liberal Redneck – Why Does Texas Hate This One Pregnant Woman So Much?
OK I am listening. I need suggestions.
I have 374 open tabs in 5 windows. Some from about a month ago. But more important than responding or reading them I need your suggestions, your ideas. I make great spaghetti red sauces. Ron and I love them. I make my base with three 28 oz (1 pound 12 oz) 794g cans of normally Dei Fratelli cans of tomato sauce but sometimes use Hunts if I can not find those. I find Hunts far sweeter, and we often don’t like our red sauce sweet. I never measure the seasonings I put in which includes the onion / pepper / celery that Ron chops to the size he likes for me to put into the sauce. Plus I use a lot of minced garlic. Often I start with three teaspoons of it to then after add another three as it cooks. Yes, we love garlic. We once used chopped garlic cloves that Ron chopped for me, but we found it was easier and more favorable to just get minced garlic from the store. That also includes the amount of hamburg he gives me to use, which might be between one pound and two plus pounds. Also I used to use ground sausage, which was a change from me peeling Italian Sausage links and slicing them. I would rather just put sage into the sauce than the sausage, as sausage makes a red sauce greasy. My red sauces often come out different each time due to all that not measuring but going on feel / smell / taste, which we both like to cook that way. We make a large amount every couple weeks, normally about four days or so from when we finish the last of it. Plus while we say each time this batch we will freeze some for later, we use it for other things and eat it too soon to do that. As I said we enjoy it and it is something in our budget we can afford. We use it to make many different things. This batch along with the pasta I cooked (because when I cook I make far too much as you might notice. Ron doesn’t complain because my former therapists say it is because of how often I went hungry, begged for something to eat, and once ended up in the hospital in critical care and then went into clinical death due to malnutrition. Sorry but while my heart stopped and nothing worked I did not see any gods, but I did feel a great sense of relief and lack of pain as it was happening. Which came back as I was being shocked and handled to return to life) Anyway this batch is already slated to be used with a large baking container of baked Ziti. Trust me, we will find something to do with the rest. Oh did I mention the 40 to 60 homemade meat balls Ron makes. He uses the small cookie scoop and they are about just larger than bite size and so grand. He makes so many because often he will go into the fridge when I am not looking and eat a bunch as a quick snack, and we both love them in hoagie rolls as meatball subs with my sauce. So all total it takes about 3 to 4 pounds of hamburger for each sauce I make.
Now with all that over information and long intro (I keep getting reminded / chastised recently that I am too long “winded”, that I use too many words to say what others could do shorter. Sorry that is me and I am not going to change, but if it bothers people they either shouldn’t read what I write or I shouldn’t comment to their blogs)
Anyway the reason for this post is I need your suggestions … for making a good chili. Every time I make mine I start it like a red sauce but instead of the those seasonings I use for that, I use more beef ones, like fajita such seasonings. I also add a lot of kidney beans, often three cans of them. I have tried making them thick and liquid juicy. And while they always taste good and we eat them, they lack what we get when we get a good chili when dining out.
Please don’t send me to cooking videos. I just can not get anything out of them. One of my favorite podcasters has a second cooking channel, yet when I try to watch his videos even though he was school trained and is a great / was a professional chef I just lose interest. I can not follow or remember and find my self more interested in his surroundings or cookware. When I try to tell Ron about it later, I can not explain how to cook the dish itself.
But I really want to make a good thick chili that is mild but able to be seasoned up with the individual hot sauce Ron and I use. I like Crystals myself. It is labeled as from Louisiana, but who knows? I am willing to make small amounts to try them. Ron and I have even resorted to eating a couple brands of canned chili, they are thick and brown rather than made with the tomato sauce base I use. But while good enough if I could recreate them and add my seasonings to them it would be better, yet I can not seem to recreate them.
So if you have a favorite chili recipe you like to make, please put it in the comments. I will give it a try. We love chili, and often went out to restaurants that we knew had great chili we enjoy, but since 2020 we have not been out to eat yet. Yes we should but …
Anyway this is my very long winded / typed request for all of you to send me your favorite homemade chili recipes. I will let you know if we try them. I am hungry just thinking of them. Hugs. Scottie
Coming Out To My Italian Parents
This is four years old. But it is how a lot of gay kids feel when they try to address their feelings with their parents. The drama on the parents / dads part may be a bit over done. But a lot of gay boys are terrified to tell their dads they are gay. And the way the boy in the video reacts to even the acceptance of his father was realistic.
A sad side note. In late 1986, when I came home from the US army, after already being in the US Navy, I took a job at one of the two local gay bars. In hindsight, I wouldn’t have done so but I learned a lot about gay culture in our area at the time. Again how I met Ron the love of my life, and who with I am going on our 34th year as a couple. On the plus side at the other one I met Ron! At the time I was still living at the adoptive folk’s home from my childhood which was horrible for me. The point of this is when I had to admit to my adoptive father who had sexually abused me I was working at the gay bar he … asked me if I was … one of those … if I was gay?
Like every one of the letters of gay hurt him to say. When I told him I was, he asked me if I didn’t think I should see a doctor about it for help. He even told me how sick I was. This is a man who made me suck his dick when I was a kid, who raped me in … No, sorry not the place or time. Anyway the point is, I understand this boy in the video’s fear his father wouldn’t accept him. Even though as it seems he had a gay brother.
Anyway it is about how hard it is for gay kids to come out to family and to simply be themselves, even in a country that doesn’t have republicans trying to make their lives a living hell. We really need to let these kids be and give them a place to be themselves openly. Before it drives them to depression and possible suicide like in the video, which thankfully the boy did not do. Hugs. Scottie
