In our home when we budget we have to have priorates.

Ron tried a new spicy chicken & pasta recipe that turned out really well.  We had left overs and Ron asked is if it was OK for him to take the left overs to his sister.  I agreed and asked why he did not invite his sister here to share dinner with us.  He at first claimed he was not sure of the recipe but when I kept asking he admitted he felt I was feeling he was not paying enough attention to our home and us as he was to his sister and her needs.  While that is true I did not want him to do the reverse and ignore his sister.  She is alone here and we are her family.  He was delighted to hear me tell him I wanted him to include his sister in our life while she was here and to include her in our meals.  I don’t feel things like that diminish our relationship; I think it increases it.  Because family is important to Ron in a way that it never was to me, I can’t understand that connection.  But also I never want to be the one to sever a healthy loving connection.  I love Ron, so that means I have to try to understand and love those that he loves.   Hugs