Silenced! A South Korean Film

As most know I have had a rough few days.  And I decided as I worked around the house and did stuff I needed something very not news in my head.  I told my computer to find me coming of age young people figuring out they were gay.  There are great short movies out there by people who lived through it and while some have the same trope, some have really good takes.  I never got that chance in my life so I enjoy those movies and cheer for the kids that come together and find themselves at the end.  Ok it is not Picard but it is also the kind of things you don’t need to watch as you work to enjoy the story.  Then life decided to kick me in the balls.  

Then the trailer for the movie silenced came to my ears.  I heard it, then rushed to my computers to see what was happening.  I watched the trailer.   Oh shit … my mind spiraled.  Everything I was going through up until then crashed on me … and I clicked on the link.  And watched even more screen takes.  

While I was crying everything that happened next is entirely my fault.  I looked up where you can watch this documentary.  This documentary of kids being abused … and getting their day in court.  That was what I desperately wanted to see.  Them win in court.  But sadly two days later I can not get there.  And I doubt I ever will, not unless I can get past the abuse.  Ron commented I did not seem like myself and have not seemed to be sleeping well, not like I have been for a while.  The pictures in my head, the screenshots of memories repeating over and over … no I am not sleeping well.  

See the movie beginning details the death of a 5 / 6 year old boy who walks out in front of a moving train, which if you watch long enough you find that the boy had watched his brother beaten for trying to protect him from rape, been repeatedly raped, then his brother raped.   The movie makes it even worse because the bath the younger boy got while nude … I got that same damn bath. The soap, the hands, the attention paid … it is all too damn real to me.

  And then goes on to mix the new teacher with flashbacks to the rape of a 6 yr girl he interrupted not knowing he had.   He witnesses the repeated beatings of a boy that turns out to be the brother that killed himself and he was repeatedly being raped that the teacher finally stops using violence himself.  Totally against their societal norms.  The reasons for the beatings become clear.  The boy tries to resist being repeatedly sexually abused.  

At that point I checked out.  Lost in time and space in my own mind.  I came back to my own mind with the computer player paused and Ron knocking on my office door asking if I wanted supper.  I told him no and did not tell him about the video.  Then two nights of bad sleep, still have not told him.  

I want to finish the movie, I want to see these kids win.  But the court part of it which is next will have to include their abuse, the rapes, forced oral sex.  Right now I can’t do that.  I can’t.  I am sorry I know it is a movie but it is a documentary and these kids did go through this.  I went through this.  So I closed the player a few minutes ago and won’t be opening it for a while.  Back to listening to podcasts of news and watching videos of what tRump is doing.  As weird as it is to say … it is far less stressful to me than that movie.  Sadly now my YouTube feed has a few abuse videos so I have to ignore the suggested and only watch the ones on my subscribed listed.  Now you know why the last few days have been a struggle for me.  Hugs

As I was checking this Ron knocked on my closed office door.  He came over and held his arms out and slowly reached around me to hug me.  He asked me if I was OK, that I had been a bit strange lately.  I told him I was fine and loved him, just a bit tired.  He replied he couldn’t have done the work the last few days without me … which is weird as I can’t help much other than fetch needed tools and parts and the occasional flashlight.  But when he came in the room I quickly turned this page to another tab.  That means he knows something is wrong and I am not hiding it well enough.  So I have to forget the documentary and everything in my past again as best I can. 

What I wanted this post to be about was why the hell do I even read this stuff, watch these things.  I have to know they will trigger me.  Yet it is like a moth to a flame.  It is why I had to leave the Male Survivor site.  Every story I read and replied to became somehow ingrained in me because some aspect of what they wrote I went through.     I started to describe the many ways those posts are me and what I went through … I got five or six sentences in when I realized I was spiraling down again.  Let just say it was too many who had parts of my abuse and added together it becomes a whole, and I couldn’t keep putting myself there even to help others.  I can not help others if I am wallowing in my own suffering.  It was destroying me.

It is why I could listen to Kamyk and help him night after night after night, because our abuse was so different.  He was a kidnaped victim for three months for ritualistic abuse.  Mine was a long slog from when I was 3 until the last time one of the hell spawn raped me repeatedly at 24.  So 21 years of violence and physical abuse. Anyway.  I am tired.  I am going to answer comments until Ron is ready for bed.  Lately he has wanted to cuddle a lot which I really like.  Be safe everyone.  Hugs

Republican Bill Would BAN Gender Non-Conforming Haircuts

2 For Women’s History Month

Today Would Have Been Aretha Franklin’s 82nd Birthday

Rest in power, queen.

By Frances Langum — March 25, 2025

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During the same week as the president’s address to Congress, RepresentWomen held our annual Democracy Solutions Summit (DSS). This solutions-oriented event allowed us to imagine what our democracy could look like with better policies and better representation.

Here, women leaders, elected officials, advocates and experts discussed the problems facing our democracy and uplifted actionable solutions to improve women’s representation and strengthen our democracy overall. This year’s summit addressed the critical need for more women in local, state and federal leadership roles.

The Democracy Solutions Summit clearly contrasts with the uncertainty of Trump’s address to Congress. The DSS is the only democracy summit featuring only women speakers and panelists committed to actionable, data-driven solutions and building coalitions that bolster American democracy at this critical time. Furthermore, our research has found that when multiple structural solutions are combined, we can bolster women’s representation in every level of government.

Complete recordings of the summit are available online, but here is a quick recap of all three days. (snip-More)

Republican Bill Would BAN Gender Non-Conforming Haircuts

My question is who decides if a hair cut conforms to gender stereotypes / norms.  I somehow doubt the 1970s /1980s long shoulder length but parted and swept back blow dried hairstyles for guys would pass the test if religious conservatives get to say what is acceptable?  What about women with cancer who are taking treatments for that cancer and lost their hair or are growing it back?  Can the doctor be sued who prescribed the treatments?  It is like trans people using the bathrooms of gender identity, who decides if that woman is feminine enough for the girl’s bathroom or that man manly enough for the boy’s bathroom?  I have told everyone while the hell spawn could have any hair they wanted including long hair I was required to have a crew cut or nearly bald hairstyle as punishment for even existing in a time when everyone was wearing their hair long.  What about parents rights? You know the reason all media with LGBTQ+ content must be removed from schools and all libraries, because some parents complain their kids might see it?    Do the progressives or the former hippies get to allow their boy children to have long hair or their girls short hair?  See how this can’t work, can’t be allowed.   People lose all autonomy and individual rights to express themselves as they want to.  It is again an attempt to return to the straight cis white Christian male dominated society of the 1950s.  Women were subservient to men and needed their permission for most things outside the home.   Raping your wife, forcing her to have sex against her will was legal as she had to perform her wifely duties.  Non-white people knew their place and stayed there.  The entire LGBTQ+ were hidden in their closets too frighted to be found out to demand their equality and rights.  That is the world they want and are trying to create using the cover of trans people are harming the children.  It is why they attacked drag queens so violently, they violate that 1950s norms.  They are desperate to enforce a nearly religious observance of their preferred way to live based mostly on religion.  Look at the bios of nearly every one of the republicans pushing these things and you see they are from a fundamentalist conservative religious faith that wants to control how other people live.  Not to bring others closer to their godlike Rev Ed Trevors does, but to make themselves feel better about things and the idea that if they make all the people they don’t like, all the acts they don’t like to go away their god will praise them, give them an afterlife life, and their god will be so please with them he will come back right away to get them.  Their god is a god of anger and smiting.    He is not a loving god who loves people as they are or want to be.   Hugs

Republicans in the Arkansas state legislature have introduced legislation that would make it effectively illegal for hairdressers to give gender-based haircuts to people of the opposite gender. The bill would allow the hairdressers to be sued if the haircut given does not conform with the gender assigned to a person at birth. This is reminiscent of the government-approved haircuts in North Korea, and equally as oppressive. Ring of Fire’s Farron Cousins explains what’s happening.

Some Belle of the Ranch videos

Some same Seder

Sam and Emma in the fun half.  Normally there is only two ways to watch the fun half.  You can be a member which they admit that some people can not afford which they have a way to get free membership if you need it.  Or you can catch the first half while it is playing live and in the description box will be a link to the free fun half.  If you click on that you can watch the entire thing.  If you save it like I do for later you can go back and watch it at any time because if you don’t the link will disappear so you can’t see it.  They make the second half private.  Hugs

10,558 views Premiered 6 hours ago FUN HALF

Livestreamed on March 21, 2025:

00:00 – FUN HALF

00:22 – AOC/Bernie team-up

08:20 – “TAX THE RICH!”

14:17 – Trump’s war on libraries and museums

29:01 – Jesse Watters is Fox’s straw man

42:55 – DOGE lovin’ Republicans getting booed everywhere

Ep 250321

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Peace & Justice History for 3/24

March 24, 1616
William Leddra was executed by the Charter government of Massachusetts for being a Quaker. He was the fourth and last of his religion to be hanged with the approval of Governor John Endicott. Though the court did not find him “evil,” he had sympathized with the Quakers who were executed before him; he had refused to remove his hat, and he used the words “thee” and “thou,” which, to Quakers, implied the equality of all people.
(Check out the way the link works for this. Much better than the terrible transcription I read the other day.
-Newsletter author)
Contemporaneous letter describing Leddra’s and other Quakers’ persecution  (starts p.58)
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March 24, 1918
Native-born Canadian women over 21 (except native, or First Nations, women) won the right to vote in federal elections, but not to run for office for yet another year. Suffrage was not granted to women in Quebec provincial elections until 1940.
Read about Thérèse Casgrain 
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March 24, 1964

In a sit-down against nuclear weapons at Parliament Square in London, England, 1,172 were arrested.
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March 24, 1965

The first Teach-In on the Vietnam War was held at the University of Michigan a month after President Lyndon Johnson ordered bombing of North Vietnam. The U-M teach-in was among the first of a new form of campus protest that was to spread nationwide, as a means of mobilizing students to examine policies of their government that they previously had taken for granted.

About the 1st Teach-In 
view original leaflets 
Very few Americans had ever heard of the country in southeast Asia, and the event was intended to educate the participants in the history of Vietnam and foreign aggression there.

Young protester in Chicago march, photo Jo Freeman
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March 24, 1967
Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr. led an anti-war march for the first time in Chicago, opposing the Vietnam War by saying:
“Our arrogance can be our doom. It can bring the curtains down on our national drama . . . Ultimately, a great nation is a compassionate nation The bombs in Vietnam explode at
home—they destroy the dream and possibility for a decent America . . . .”

Reverend King addresses rally at the end of the Chicago march, photo: Jo Freeman
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March 24, 1980


The Coalition of Labor Union Women (CLUW) was founded, electing as their first president Olga Madar, a vice president of the United Auto Workers.
The convention adopted four goals: organize the unorganized; promote affirmative action; increase women’s participation in their unions; and increase women’s participation in political and legislative activities.

CLUW history 
CLUW today
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March 24, 1980

The archbishop of San Salvador, Óscar Arnulfo Romero y Galdámez was assassinated while consecrating the Eucharist during mass.
Monseñor Romero had become a well-known critic of violence and injustice and, as such, was perceived in the right-wing civilian and military circles of El Salvador as an enemy, and criticized by the Roman Catholic church. Romero had exhorted the police and soldiers to disobey orders to kill innocent people, refusing to be silenced. Worshippers had interrupted, with ovations, his homilies condemning the terrorism of the state.

The ongoing legacy of Monsignor Romero (The Fransiscans have scrubbed him away. Here’s another place to read about him)
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March 24, 1989
The most environmentally damaging oil spill to date began when the supertanker Exxon Valdez, owned and operated by the Exxon Corporation, ran aground on Bligh Reef in southern Alaska’s Prince William Sound. An estimated 11 million gallons of oil (257,000 barrels or 38,800 metric tons) eventually leaked into the water.Attempts to contain the massive spill were unsuccessful, and wind and currents spread the oil nearly 500 miles from its source, eventually polluting more than 1300 miles of coastline. Hundreds of thousands of birds and thousands of sea mammals were lost in the disaster.

A dead murrelet, one of the hardest-hit sea birds in the Valdez spill.
25 years after the Exxon Valdez Oil Spill, read more

https://www.peacebuttons.info/E-News/peacehistorymarch.htm#march24

Some Women’s And Labor History

When They Jailed The Most Dangerous Woman In America, Mary ‘Mother’ Jones, For ‘First Amendment’ by Rebecca Schoenkopf (Eric Loomis on Wonkette)

March 22, 1914, in labor history! Read on Substack

Mother Jones, c. 1910, marching in Trinidad, Colo. Photo courtesy of The Newberry Library, Chicago. Call # MMS Kerr Archives.

On March 22, 1914, Mary “Mother” Jones was arrested on a train in southern Colorado for her work in fighting for the coal miners on strike that area. This was her second arrest in this conflict, as she had previously been detained by the state militia in Trinidad and then sent to Denver. Upon release in Denver, she immediately went back to the coal fields, daring the mine owners and their bought police forces to arrest her again. Her work here was typical of the sacrifices this iconic organizer made in the second half of her life as she fought for the miners so badly exploited in late nineteenth and early twentieth century America.

Mother Jones is one of the most fascinating characters in American history. An Irish housewife who had little connection to political activism for much of her adult life, she emerged in middle age as a fiery agitator after her husband and all four of her children died of yellow fever in Memphis and her dress shop burned in the Chicago fire of 1871. She quickly became the voice of the mineworkers, especially in the coal country of Pennsylvania and West Virginia. She bridged generations of activism, being extremely close friends with Terence Powderly while also hailing the rise of the United Mine Workers and radical activists that Powderly could barely understand at his peak in the 1880s. She said she was much older than she actually was, which had both rhetorical powers and helped cement her in our historical memory, as she claimed to be 100 years old the year she died when in fact she was probably 93.

By 1897, she was known as Mother Jones, wearing out of style Victorian black dresses and using the mantle of motherhood as central to her organizing prowess. Calling her “mother” both established her as a maternal figure among the miners but also centered her emphasis on childhood and motherhood in organizing. For instance, she opposed women’s suffrage and ultimately believed that women should be taking care of their children rather than getting involved in politics. Her own life story made this stance not hypocritical. She also used children in her organizing, including the 1903 Children’s Crusade, a march of miners’ children from Pennsylvania to Theodore Roosevelt’s home in Oyster Bay, New York, where the children carried signs reading, “We want to go to School and not the mines.” Roosevelt refused to meet with them. She worked for the UMWA but attended the founding convention of the Industrial Workers of the World in 1905 and worked as an organizer for the Socialist Party in the late 1900s, returning to the UMWA as a paid organizer in 1911.

Though all of these actions, Mother Jones became known as “the most dangerous woman in America,” a title given to her by a district attorney in West Virginia named Reese Blizzard. During a 1902 trial where she was charged with ignoring injunctions against miners holding union meetings (First Amendment in the coal fields indeed!), Blizzard pointed at her, saying, “There sits the most dangerous woman in America. She comes into a state where peace and prosperity reign … crooks her finger [and] twenty thousand contented men lay down their tools and walk out.” That wasn’t true and served the interests of the owners to say that their employees were actually good people but stupid and easily led astray by outside agitators, instead of admitting their employees had a bloody good reason to go on strike. Anyway, the nickname stuck and this attitude from employers was something Jones reveled in.

In the fall of 1913, Mother Jones traveled to Colorado to participate in mineworkers’ organizing in the coal fields in the southern part of that state. Conditions in the coal fields were all too typical of the time: complete industry control over a workforce that was polyglot and desperate. Working conditions were horribly dangerous. Between 1884 and 1912, 1,708 workers died in Colorado coal mines (over 42,000 nationwide). Companies controlled not only the mines but housing, stores, and education. Union organizing was met with brutality and murder. Effectively, the coal companies controlled workers’ lives in Colorado as they did in West Virginia and Pennsylvania. These were Mother Jones’s people.

The companies did not welcome Jones’s presence. She was thrown off company property several times. She was arrested twice. After the first arrest, she was placed in a comfortable hospital for a month. After all, she was an elderly woman and a bit harder to crack the whip on than the miners themselves. But on March 22, 1914, she was arrested again. This time, the companies were less kind. They threw her into the Huerfano County jail in Walsenburg. This was no nice hospital. She spent 23 days in the jail.

The United Mine Workers tried to capitalize on Jones’s arrest. They issued a pamphlet describing (and perhaps exaggerating a bit) the conditions this old woman had to suffer through as she lived her faith of defending the miners. The pamphlet discussed the filth, the rats in the cell, the snow pouring in a broken window, a guard jabbing her with a bayonet. On the other hand, the mine owners and their friends accused Mother Jones of having been a prostitute in a Denver brothel in 1904 and said her support for Coxey’s Army had consisted of procuring women for sex. On both sides, Mother Jones elicited strong opinions.

After her second release, Mother Jones went to Washington DC to testify on the conditions in the coal country. A few days later, the Colorado coal wars would see their most violent incident, with the Ludlow Massacre. Between Ludlow and the aftermath when enraged miners went on a rampage against anyone associated with the coal companies, up to 200 people died in this strike, possibly the most deadly in American history. John D. Rockefeller Jr. agreed to meet with her about the conditions of the miners as part of his public relations effort when he was savagely attacked for his role at Ludlow.

Mary Jones died in 1930. Earlier that year, on the day she supposedly turned 100, Mother Jones was filmed with sound about workers’ rights.

FURTHER READING:

Elliott Gorn’s The Most Dangerous Woman in America.

Thomas Andrews, Killing for Coal: America’s Deadliest Labor War.

An Early Monday Brain Cleanser

From ‘Himalayan fur goblin’ to ‘teacup werewolf,’ these silly videos are helping dogs find homes

(I’m sorry you’ll have to click through to see the video; either the live headline above, or the link beneath the next graf. It won’t embed. It’s worth it, I promise!)

Nashville animal shelter volunteer Adrian Budnick was looking ideas to showcase the adoptable dogs on social media. Looking for a Himalayan fur goblin or a teacup werewolf? Her silly videos have increased both adoptions and donations. (AP video/Kristin M. Hall)Published 7:06 AM CDT, March 22, 2025

https://apnews.com/video/from-himalayan-fur-goblin-to-teacup-werewolf-these-silly-videos-are-helping-dogs-find-homes-0244d1b2f4df422ebe7e62304be87671

Peace & Justice History for 3/22

March 22, 1933
The Nazi German concentration camp at Dachau was opened, the first of many such camps built for the incarceration and extermination of those considered unfit: Jews, Polish Catholics, Communists, the Roma (frequently referred to as Gypsies), the “work-shy,” homosexuals, the “hereditary asocial,” and those with mental and/or physical handicaps.

The gate to Dachau “Work will make you free”
Over 200,000 prisoners were registered at Dachau, nearly all of whom died there.
The early days of Dachau 
March 22, 1956
Civil rights leader Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr., was convicted of organizing an allegedly illegal boycott by black passengers of buses in Montgomery, Alabama. He was fined $500 but when his lawyers indicated his intent to appeal, the sentence was changed to 386 days of imprisonment.
Story of the Montgomery Bus Boycott 
March 22, 1965
3,200 civil rights demonstrators, led by the Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr., and under protection of a federalized National Guard, began a third attempt at a week-long march from Selma, Alabama, to the state capitol at Montgomery in support of voting rights for black Americans.

Marchers on their way to Montgomery
A week before, the march had been violently stopped before leaving Selma. People from all over the country arrived to support the effort for enfranchisement of African Americans in the South whose right to vote had been systematically denied.
From Selma to Montgomery: An Introduction to the 1965 Marches – Lesson Plan
March 22, 1974

The Equal Rights Amendment to the U.S. Constitution (ERA) was passed by both houses of Congress with two-thirds majorities. The amendment, to give women full equality under law, was ratified by the legislatures of only 35 states, short of the required three-quarters of the 50 states, and thus never became law.
Detailed history of the Equal Rights Amendment 
March 22, 1980
30,000 marched in Washington, DC against re-introduction of draft registration.
  Denise Levertov’s lines from her poem,
“A Speech for Antidraft Rally, D.C., March 22, 1980″”…Let our different dream,
and more than dream, our acts
of constructive refusal generate
struggle. And love. We must dare to win
not wars, but a future
in which to live.”
The entire poem (pdf) 

https://www.peacebuttons.info/E-News/peacehistorymarch.htm#march22