My wonderful brother Randy sent me a gift

For those that don’t know starting in 2013 my childhood abuse started to crash over me.  I struggled daily to work and keep it together but I had started to again self harm.  I would take a very sharp blade and draw it across my forearms and watch the blood flow.  Yes the feelings when I did that released good endorphins.  When Ron found out, he took to hiding knives, especially all his X Acto tools he had for the crafts he had.  But he forgot about my long time pocket knife, a jack knife I had had for a very long time.  I kept it to a razor edge.  

But in March 2014 I fell into total breakdown.  I wanted the memories to stop, I was reliving them constantly with full emotions and body feels including smells along with tastes.  I was close to choosing to end my life.  I was doing my best to hide it from Ron, but by this time I was refusing to leave my bedroom other than for my pain doctor visits, which Ron who was working 12 hour night shifts would take me to.  

This is where Randy stepped up, became my brother and maybe saved my life.  Randy had entered my life earlier and was a grand online commenter to my first blog and we formed a great friendship.  Randy is a really great writer, and anyone that has read his posts here knows he can write very well.  Far better than I can.  He started to send me his stories and I enjoyed them.   Then he sent a story about a man in a food court saving an abused child.   It triggered me into a bad episode because of the break down I was dealing with.  

I was very upset and wrote back to Randy about how his story was great and so real to life it had triggered me badly, and I was really struggling.  Randy right away reached out to me online apologizing and eventually as we kept talking he asked for my phone number.   This was before my total melt down when I started hurting my self.  Randy and I talked on the phone … which was rare for me.  One of the worst beatings I got as a kid was reaching up to the ringing wall phone and going to hand it to the adults there.   I was never to use the phone.  It was beaten into me.  Never touch the phone.  I now realized they were worried I would report my abuse.  

Randy and I got to be close friends.   Then when I started hurting my self, deeply cutting my arms, refusing to leave my bedroom, and wanted to die, Randy who was working 12 hour night shift in a hard job would have his phone on so if I felt myself slipping I could call him.   Hour after hour he talked to me, denying himself sleep as he kept me grounded.  I could call him anytime … and I did as I was about to use the knife on my skin I would put it down to pick up the phone.  I talked to him about everything I never told anyone.  I poured myself out to him and he was there.  He was the brother I really desperately need but never had growing up.  He became my brother in every way that ever matters.  

I tell all this because I have been under the weather and Ron just lost his brother.  So Randy sent me a gift.  He is a grand brother.   He sent me an insulated cup.   Here are the pictures.   Randy is one of a kind.  He does have a grand sense of humor.   I love him.  

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How They Taught Teen Boys About Their Private Parts in 1958. Would Schools Teach This Today?

A coach telling boys it is ok to masturbate and to call it rubbing themselves … wow those 1950s teachers were real groomers by standards of the Lib’s of TikTok. Mom’s of Liberty, and red state republicans.   Hugs.  Scottie

To me, this sex education high school film, which ran in thousands of schools across America back in the late 1950s, is perfectly reasonable. I saw something in school like it although I had already learned most of what it said from other boys in class talking.

But talking about sperm, ejaculation, the penis, having an erection, masturbation, about puberty in general and boys seems to me like in many schools in America today, they would not allow this conversation. I am interested to hear your comments on whether this is being taught in your child’s school.

Sex education in schools has been around a long time. Some parents and political leaders felt that it should never be taught in the schools. Some parents and political leaders today fear that has gone too far by teaching sex in such a way that alternatives to a man and a woman relationship are being discussed.

This is clearly a film for teenage boys in part because it just talks about the facts. No emotion. No other issues. I feel that even today, this is a manner of speaking that boys feel comfortable with.

In case you are asking, films for teenage girls talk about these issues such as a girls. In a completely different fashion and style. They were smart about that when they made these films.

I was a fairly shy teenager and did not kiss girls after a date until they kissed me. But I know that there were other boys in my class who are far more aggressive. as a teenage boy in the 1950s, I knew extraordinarily little about teenage girls and what their dating experience was like. If you are a teenage boy or a young man watching this, you have a lot more of a sense of what women are like then we did back then. If you are a teenage girl or young woman watching this, things I think have changed a great deal in terms of the ethics and morals this film is trying to convince teenage girls and boys to accept as the way things should be. I would be interested in comments on sexual mores today both in the United States and around the world and how they relate to what is being presented here.

EXPLAINED: Why TERF-In-Chief JK Rowling Is Celebrating Trans-Care Review Findings | Erin Reed | TMR

To be clear I have had both the Cass report and the wpath files thrown at me by anti-trans hater activists.  What they refuse to do is listen to the follow up that destroys each of these as false, misleading, taken out of context, and in some cases what the haters claim is directly against what both reported finding.  Like anti-vaxxers and maga, the anti-trans terfs feel comfortable lying about what really is to try to convince people that their weird views are correct.  I have looked into this and even some people that claim to be my friend on this channel refuse to hear or read anything that disagrees with their anti-trans ideas.  Even when those ideas are clearly proven wrong.  They are no different from Covid / vaccine deniers, flat earthers, and others who prefer their prejudices and old ways to the accual facts.  Hugs.  Scottie

Journalist Erin Reed, author of the Erin In The Morning newsletter on SubStack, discusses the recent gender identity review by the National Health Services (NHS) in the United Kingdom.

Israel is a war criminal doing crimes against humanity in Gaza and the West bank.


Ronnie Chatah, host of the Beirut Banyan YouTube channel and co-host of the MTV podcast, discusses the current geopolitical circumstances in Lebanon.

Hanover County supervisors censor commendation for Girl Scout who fought censorship

https://www.wvtf.org/news/2024-04-11/hanover-county-supervisors-censor-commendation-for-girl-scout-who-fought-censorship

Thanks to Ten Bears for the link.  https://homelessonthehighdesert.com/2024/04/20/lastday-looking-at-it-loosely/

The idea of banning these books about race and LGBTQ+ people is to remove representation of those concepts / people from society, from public view.   It is not about protecting kids, it is about enforcing white straight cis fundamentalist Christian values on everyone and making everyone conform to a small segment of society view of what is proper to be allowed.  So yes these guys pull this shit.  After all who does this girl think she is to second guess old white Christian men.   Hugs.  Scottie

RADIO IQ | By Brad Kutner

One of Hanover student and Girl Scout Kate's "Banned Book Nook" at Morr Donuts in Mechanicsville, VA.
Brad Kutner / Radio IQ
One of Hanover student and Girl Scout Kate’s “Banned Book Nook” at Morr Donuts in Mechanicsville, VA
 

The Hanover County Board of Supervisors spent their Wednesday afternoon meeting approving language to honor a handful of Girl Scouts for completing their Gold Award projects, among other items.

But one Girl Scout, whose project was designed to fight what she sees as censorship in the county’s school system, had her commendation “amended.”

Cold Harbor District Supervisor Michael Herzberg pulled out the proclamation for Hanover County student Kate Lindley from a group of proclamations for Girl Scouts achieving their highest honor.

Lindley’s Gold Award project involved setting up Banned Book Nooks.

It’s an idea she came up with after Hanover County removed over 75 titles from school libraries, claiming they contained “inappropriate language,” “violence” and “sexually explicit content.”

Lindley’s project got media attention, and she’s since grown her project’s collection to over 400 books, giving access to the censored literature where it might otherwise be denied.

You can find out more via Lindley’s Instagram account for the project here.

And while her original proclamation language specifically mentions quote “identifying locations where books were available that had been banned by Hanover County Public Schools libraries,” Supervisor Herzberg’s motion led to quote “amending” -Lindley says censoring- that detail along with any other mention of banned books or censorship.

“The Board of Supervisors has bestowed upon me the greatest honor anyone fighting censorship and banning could receive by censoring me and my project,” Lindley said.

In a statement, a spokesperson for Hanover County said that items on the consent agenda are quote “always subject to change or amendment” and that’s what happened Wednesday.

And while Lindley is set to graduate in the next few weeks before heading off to college, she plans to attend and receive whatever commendation the board of supervisors is willing to give her.

But she plans to let them know how she feels afterward.

Evangelical: “Gay Nationalists Are The Real Threat”

I do not understand why people like this guy claims that they speak for real Americans, That everyone but them is destroying their country, that they are losing their country, that everyone knows … when it is not true, or my favorite they use, they push the idea that they are the majority when they are not.   That is a tactic maga uses, the maga person claims to be representing the country or the people when in fact they are a minority.   Lib’s of TikTok use it, as does Mom’s for Liberty.  These kinds of people act like they and the ones like them are the only ones in the country that matter or count, that no one else has rights or the right to think differently.  That is because these people are a minority that want to rule others.  Also why are these people so terrified of sex and body parts?  They spend more time thinking about different people having sex than porn watchers.  I want to tell these people to just get laid, have sex and enjoy it, or don’t if you don’t want to.  Just stop trying to force others to live as you do.    Hugs.   Scottie


 

Pastor Alex McFarland writes for the Moonie Times:

Remember the San Fransisco Gay Men’s Choir and their 2021 video singing, “We’re coming for your children?” Remember that? At the time, as many conservatives and “traditional morality” voices expressed concern, with equal conviction many voices essentially retorted, “Chill out! Can’t you people take a joke?”

But for the “Gay Nationalists” working to groom America’s youth for a thoroughly woke, hyper-sexualized tomorrow, all of this is no joke. Gay, trans and critical race theory activists take their work of deconstructing America with religious fervor. Because deviancy and license are their religion.

With contempt for God and His followers, traditional Americans are slammed as “Christian nationalists.” But let’s call the woke zealots what they are: Gay Nationalists. Live gay, live straight, live chaste, live promiscuously – each of us will answer to Almighty God for how we responded to the truth we really did know. But the abandonment of known moral truth to placate the sexual deviants who are after our children; this is paving the way for the loss of America.

Read the full article. McFarland hosts a daily show on the American Family Association’s nearly 200 radio stations.

He last appeared here in January 2024 when he declared that “all human rights progress for the last 2000 years has been due to Jesus.”

McFarland first appeared here in 2015 when he blamed a mass shooting in California on God’s anger over the nationwide legalization of same-sex marriage.  

 

“Remember all the shit we’ve made up about gay people?”

The obsession with other people’s sex lives is bizarre. Go feed the homeless. Do something useful for a change.

 

What is White Christian Nationalism and How Is It Affecting Public Education Today?

Wow! This is the best explanation of Christian Nationalism I have read.  Basically it comes down to tribalism.   I want to thank politicians are poody heads at https://poodyheads.wordpress.com/2024/04/18/what-is-white-christian-nationalism-and-how-is-it-affecting-public-education-today/ for the link.  

I want to give two quotes from the article.  

All  of these attacks exemplify pushback against inclusion and welcome for ‘the other’: “The first and most fundamental way in which white Christian nationalism threatens American liberal democracy is that it defines ‘the people’ in a way that excludes many Americans. White Christian nationalism is a form of what is often called ‘ethno-nationalism.’ Liberal democracy rests on what is usually called ‘civic nationalism’ It defines the nation in terms of values, laws, and institutions.’” (The Flag and The Cross, p. 114)

Throughout the book the authors explore and re-explore the meaning of the deep story of white Christian nationalism: “White Christian nationalism is our term for the ethno-traditionalism among many white Americans that conflates racial, religious, and national identity (the deep story) and pines for cultural and political power that demographic and cultural shifts have increasingly threatened…. (T)he term Christian in white Christian nationalism is often far more akin to a dog whistle that calls out to an aggrieved tribe than a description of the content of one’s faith.” (The Flag and The Cross, p. 44)

 

DEBUNKED: Bill Maher On Canada

They left about 4:20 am

Ron’s sister Diane got a flight to our local airport, she arrived Sunday night at just after midnight.   Monday was spent making plans.  This morning we all got up about 3:20 and they got ready, packed the car, and left for North Carolina.   It will take them 12 hours to get there.  They need to collect the brother’s belongings, sign forms, deal with the crematory, get death certificates, and so much more.  Then Diane will fly from North Carolina to New Hampshire, where she has a summer home.  Her husband will meet her there later.  Ron will drive home alone.  Hugs.  Scottie

Proposed Missouri bill would make teachers register as sex offenders if found supporting transgender students who socially transition

https://www.cnn.com/2024/03/08/us/missouri-lawmakers-felony-transgender-students-reaj/index.html

Some people weirdly think they have the right to tell others what to believe, what to wear, what to call themselves.  The fundamentalist seem to want to force everyone to be like them, live like them, read only what they read.  Hugs Scottie


 

A newly proposed law in Missouri could charge teachers and counselors with a felony and require them to register as sex offenders if they’re found guilty of supporting transgender students who are socially transitioning.

Missouri state Rep. Jamie Gragg, a Republican, introduced HB 2885 last week. If passed and signed into law, the legislation would criminalize the act of “contributing to social transition” for anyone acting in an official capacity at their school, including providing informational or material support.

The proposed bill joins a string of anti-LGBTQ measures that have been filed in states across the US and comes amid a growing “parental rights” movement that seeks to empower parents to decide what can be taught in classrooms about gender, sexuality and race.

Numerous medical associations, including the American Medical Association, the American Psychiatric Association, the American Academy of Pediatrics and the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, have said gender-affirming care, like social transitioning, is clinically appropriate for children and adults.

The bill defines social transitioning as “the process by which an individual adopts the name, pronouns, and gender expression, such as clothing or haircuts, that match the individual’s gender identity and not the gender assumed by the individual’s sex at birth.”

In Missouri, a person charged with a class E felony could face a maximum of four years in prison. A Tier I sex offender could also remain on the Sex Offender Registry for up to 15 years, according to another Missouri statute.

CNN has reached out to Gragg for comment.

In an interview with CNN affiliate KY3, Gragg said the goal of the bill is to “put the social learning development of our children back in the hands of the parents.”

“Ultimately, whose children are these? They belong to the family that they come from. If there is a situation where they don’t have that parental or guardian to go back on or to talk to, there is other help, professional help they can get,” Gragg told the outlet.

It is unclear if Gragg’s bill will be taken up in the state House and it has not been scheduled for a hearing.

‘Hateful and malicious’

LGBTQ advocates and Missourians have criticized the bill, including Gragg’s brother.

During a news conference Thursday, Charles Gragg, Jr., a retired and disabled veteran who lives in Springfield, Missouri, said he was shocked by the bill his younger brother authored and that the measure “took his breath away.” 

“This bill is removing valuable support that is important for children. It needlessly targets teachers in addition to attacking those that they don’t agree with. It also attacks anyone who expresses compassion or tolerance and seeks to silence them. I believe it’s intended to remove them from the future conversations,” Gragg Jr. said.

Robert Fischer, communications director for PROMO, a LGBTQ+ policy and advocacy organization in Missouri that organized Thursday’s presser, said students and teachers have contacted the group to express concern about how the bill could impact educators.

“We will certainly have conversations with legislators to see what can be done, but also we’ll mobilize our community of LGBTQ+ Missourians and allies to fight back against this because teachers are an incredibly crucial part of our educational system,” Fischer said.

https://www.cnn.com/2024/02/22/us/pew-survey-curriculum-debate-reaj


GLSEN, an organization that aims to create safe and inclusive school environments for LGBTQ+ youth, also criticized the bill. Melanie Willingham-Jaggers, executive director of GLSEN, said the bill is “deeply transphobic.”

“While this egregious bill is expected to die in committee hearings, it is increasingly alarming to watch extremist state legislators peddle anti-trans hate and continue to introduce discriminatory policies,” Willingham-Jaggers said in a statement to CNN. “Hate speech, especially when enshrined into discriminatory policies like these transphobic bills in Oklahoma and Missouri, leads to hate crimes.”

Oklahoma’s governor signed a bill into law last year banning gender-affirming care for minors with the possibility of a felony charge for health care professionals who provide it.

Last month, Nex Benedict, a nonbinary high school student in Oklahoma, died a day after they told their family they were involved in a fight at school. Civil rights groups and advocates have blamed a heightened and hostile climate against the LGBTQ+ community for contributing to Benedict’s death.

In 2023, at least 510 anti-LGBTQ bills were introduced in state legislatures, according to data from the American Civil Liberties Union. The organization is also tracking 478 bills in the 2024 legislative session that restrict LGBTQ rights.

Gragg Jr. said he has not spoken with his brother about the bill and does not know what would inspire him to sponsor it.

“It’s just hateful and malicious. This legislation will cost lives and recklessly destroy others just for the sin of being compassionate.”

CNN’s Jen Christensen contributed to this report.