We’ve all heard of the gay bully trope, and we’re all pretty annoyed by it. Sex Education fan favorite Eric had to end up with his bully Adam later in the show, Charlie from Heartstopper has to deal with a closeted jerk named Ben before he meets his soulmate, and countless other queer plotlines in books and TV shows love to fall back on the idea that your homophobic bully’s biggest problem is that he’s harboring a crush on you—while stuffing you into a locker.
It’s not fun, it’s not helpful, and it’s not the representation we’d like to see. But is it even realistic?
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A study from 1996 features some intriguing insights, and it’s causing plenty of conversation today about the link between repressed queerness and anti-gay violence.
“Basically,” TikToker Darath Khon explains, “they want to see if people who are homophobic get aroused by homosexual things.”
The study surveyed 64 men, half of whom were openly homophobic, and half of whom were not. All of the men in the study identified as straight. They were shown three different types of spicy videos: one featuring straight sex, one featuring lesbian sex, and another featuring sex between gay men. They tracked the men’s…area of arousal or “the growth and circumference of the meat” to see what videos they responded to in each other the videos.
So what did they find out?
While both groups of men indicated arousal from the videos of straight and lesbian sex, only the homophobic men showed marked arousal during the videos of gay male sex—even though they stated verbally that they were not turned on by the videos.
But meat doesn’t lie, especially when it’s being specifically measured for arousal.
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(Editor note from Scottie. In a way I can disagree with this. I know myself and other people who were abused as kids often get aroused about things even if it is not about their sexual interests. Such as their own abuse as children or the abuse of others as children that they read. All sorts of things they wouldn’t do or don’t want done to others that they read or see can trigger arousal in them because of the trained responses as a child. The child’s brain / body gets trained to respond to certain stimuli in certain ways that please the abuser. It simply means the body remembers the abuse and reacts to the same stimulation now as it did as when the person was a child. Hugs)
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Again—none of this is exactly breaking news. But it is interesting, and many commenters shared their own firsthand experiences of this depressing phenomenon.
“Anyone who says it’s a choice thinks it is because THEY’VE made a choice,” one commenter wrote. While we don’t know whether the men surveyed were all bisexual, that would make sense based on recent research that implies that men are far more bisexual than many of them would be willing or able to admit.
“[T]he call is ALWAYS coming from inside the house,” another poster wrote.
What an adorable couple.
Some viewers did bring up interesting counterpoints, noting the relative smallness of the sample size and explaining that physical arousal isn’t always directly connected to sexual arousal. Fair points, all. But it’s still interesting, especially in this current political climate, to think about how many men are either unaware of, or deliberately in denial of, their own queer desires.
One poster had an interesting theory. “[G]uys fetishize activities that are considered deviant,” they wrote. “If they consider gay activities deviant, that’s probably going to be more of a turn on than for guys who see it as normal. Also there are theories that fetishes come from strong feelings of fear or disgust. It’s the brain’s built in exposure therapy.”
There’s so much we don’t know about desire, physical attraction, and sexuality—but there are some things we do know. For instance, if your entire career is based around making anti-LGBTQ+ religious raps, there might be something much more complex—and contradictory—going on behind the scenes.
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Both Ron and I worked ICUs and we have seen people who had strokes. I had a small stroke in early 2023. Ron and I agree that tRump has suffered a stroke and that was why he was out of sight for a week and why he has repeated bruising on his hand. Hugs
This is an important video that shows how republicans have been trained by tRump. She heaps responsibility on the democrats and clearly wants to politicize the violence. Yet when asked about democrats who were shot she tries to shut down the reporter and refused to answer if republicans should be blamed for the democrats being shot. Instead she kept repeating that this was on the democrats and how the democrats were fomenting hate. She spread lies with the complete confidence and authority knowing she was wrong. Hugs
On 9-11-2025 My car shut down while I was driving. I managed to coast to a side road to stop and thankfully I was able to get the car off the main road and to a safe place to stop. Called AAA and then used the app to get a two truck. So I was needing the breakdown lane. Hugs
The below cartoon was done by an extreme right cartoonist who refuses to admit the right doesn’t anything wrong and puts the entire blame for anything wrong on the left / democrats. Notice that in the list of voices the right wing hate media is missing. Hugs
I do not mourn for Kirk. Nor will I sanitize the hate and desire for harm that Kirk spewed. He preached harm for anyone not white Christian straight cis and male. The fact that the very violence and lies he was throwing at others was the cause of the anger at him is something tRump and the right refuses to see or admit. tRump gave a speech where he attacked those who belittle and insult those they disagree with and call them names. Of course he failed to include himself in that list. He spoke of all the republican figures subject to violence from the rhetoric being spoken, but he failed to mention anyone on the left or democrats that had been harmed including the recent democratic state senators and house members. His own son Don Jr joked about the Paul Pelosi attack by a right winger and said his hallowing costume was a hammer and tight whites. But according to tRump it is the left, the entire left that is causing the violence and of course no trans person should have a gun. Hugs
Hearing how the Right has immediately called for a war with Democrats without knowing who the shooter is or what was their intent, it makes you think they don’t care.
They want Epstein out of the headlines. They want Russia owning Trump out of the headlines.
On Wednesday morning, Poland shot down several Russian drones that entered its airspace—a first since Moscow’s invasion of Ukraine. The incident disrupted air travel and set the region on edge.
Early Wednesday morning, Poland shot down several Russian drones that had violated its airspace during a massive strike against western Ukraine. The Polish military operation, confirmed by Prime Minister Donald Tusk through a social media message in the early morning hours, marks a turning point in Warsaw’s involvement in the conflict that has affected the region for more than two and a half years. The Polish defense agency reported the presence of more than 10 objects coming from Ukrainian airspace and called the violation an “act of aggression.”
Poland Invokes NATO Article 4
In response to the raid, Poland activated Article 4 of NATO, the North Atlantic Treaty, requesting immediate consultations with allies. Tusk urgently convened a meeting of the Council of Ministers at 8 am local time, maintaining constant contact with the alliance’s secretary general, Mark Rutte, to coordinate the political and diplomatic response.
Article 4 allows a NATO member to solicit consultations whenever it believes its security, territorial integrity, or political independence is threatened. Unlike Article 5, which provides for collective military action in the event of an armed attack, Article 4 does not compel immediate military action, but its activation nevertheless constitutes a significant political escalation, as it emphasizes the unity of the alliance in responding to perceived threats against NATO members.
Poland had already been on high alert for possible aircraft overruns since at least November 2022, when a stray Ukrainian missile accidentally hit a village in the south of the country, killing two people. Until now, however, there had been no recorded cases of Polish or allied defense systems shooting down drones on national territory. Ukrainian president Volodymyr Zelenskyclaimed on Wednesday that “at least eight” Iranian-made Shahed drones were “aimed in the direction of Poland” during the nighttime attack, suggesting the incursion into Polish airspace was intentional.
NATO Defense Activated
Residents of the affected Polish areas reported hearing explosions in the sky during the night, followed by the activation of warning sirens. The alert was triggered precisely during a large-scale Russian attack on Ukraine’s western regions, particularly those in Volyn and Lviv that directly border Poland.
According to information released by the Polish military command, national and NATO air defense systems were activated immediately after radar detected the entry of unmanned aircraft into Polish airspace. The interception operation continued for several hours, with the armed forces neutralizing objects deemed dangerous using air defense systems. The search for the wreckage of the downed drones is still ongoing in the eastern parts of the country as of midday Wednesday.
Airports Temporarily Closed
The intervention led to the temporary closure of four airports, including Warsaw-Chopin and Lublin, as well as the Rzeszów airport, which has become a crucial hub for sending Western military aid to Ukraine in the past two years. The United States Federal Aviation Administration confirmed the temporary closure of the Polish airports for “unplanned military activity related to national security.”
The Russian drone strike also hit eastern Ukraine hard: According to reports by the BBC citing local Ukrainian officials, 24 people were killed and 19 wounded in an air raid on a village in the Donetsk region, where the victims were standing in line to collect their pensions. The incident comes amid a particularly intense phase of the conflict, where Moscow’s troops are carrying out a slow but steady offensive in much of Donetsk, in western Ukraine. Meanwhile, diplomatic attempts to reach a peace agreement have essentially stalled, and contacts between Washington and Moscow in recent months have produced no concrete results.
Rising Tensions
The incident comes at a time of particular tension in the region. Only 24 hours before Poland shot down Russia’s drones, the Polish president warned during a press conference in Helsinki that Russian president Vladimir Putin would be ready to invade other countries after the aggression against Ukraine. The timing of the incursion takes on even greater significance when one considers that on Friday, September 13, Russia and Belarus will kick off joint military exercises dubbed “Zapad,” which have already raised regional security concerns.
Poland had announced Tuesday that it was closing its border with Belarus precisely in response to what Warsaw calls “very aggressive” maneuvers, in addition to the growing number of provocations by Moscow and Minsk. Neighboring Lithuania has also decided to tighten border controls, a sign of widespread alertness among NATO member countries that border Russia and Belarus.
Wednesday’s incident also comes at a delicate time for international diplomacy: US president Donald Trumpdeclared over the weekend that he was ready to move to a second phase of sanctions against Russia after months of unsuccessful negotiations for a peace agreement between Moscow and Kyiv. The downing of drones on Polish territory now risks further complicating any mediation efforts.
This story originally appeared on WIRED Italia and has been translated from Italian.
