Do homophobia and gay arousal go hand in hand? You’d be surprised

https://www.queerty.com/do-homophobia-and-gay-arousal-go-hand-in-hand-youd-be-surprised-20250902/

We’ve all heard of the gay bully trope, and we’re all pretty annoyed by itSex Education fan favorite Eric had to end up with his bully Adam later in the show, Charlie from Heartstopper has to deal with a closeted jerk named Ben before he meets his soulmate, and countless other queer plotlines in books and TV shows love to fall back on the idea that your homophobic bully’s biggest problem is that he’s harboring a crush on you—while stuffing you into a locker.

It’s not fun, it’s not helpful, and it’s not the representation we’d like to see. But is it even realistic?

A study from 1996 features some intriguing insights, and it’s causing plenty of conversation today about the link between repressed queerness and anti-gay violence.

“Basically,” TikToker Darath Khon explains, “they want to see if people who are homophobic get aroused by homosexual things.”

The study surveyed 64 men, half of whom were openly homophobic, and half of whom were not. All of the men in the study identified as straight. They were shown three different types of spicy videos: one featuring straight sex, one featuring lesbian sex, and another featuring sex between gay men. They tracked the men’s…area of arousal or “the growth and circumference of the meat” to see what videos they responded to in each other the videos.

So what did they find out?

While both groups of men indicated arousal from the videos of straight and lesbian sex, only the homophobic men showed marked arousal during the videos of gay male sex—even though they stated verbally that they were not turned on by the videos.

But meat doesn’t lie, especially when it’s being specifically measured for arousal.

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(Editor note from Scottie.  In a way I can disagree with this.  I know myself and other people who were abused as kids often get aroused about things even if it is not about their sexual interests.   Such as their own abuse as children or the abuse of others as children that they read.  All sorts of things they wouldn’t do or don’t want done to others that they read or see can trigger arousal in them because of the trained responses as a child.  The child’s brain / body gets trained to respond to certain stimuli in certain ways that please the abuser.    It simply means the body remembers the abuse and reacts to the same stimulation now as it did as when the person was a child.    Hugs)  

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Again—none of this is exactly breaking news. But it is interesting, and many commenters shared their own firsthand experiences of this depressing phenomenon.

“Anyone who says it’s a choice thinks it is because THEY’VE made a choice,” one commenter wrote. While we don’t know whether the men surveyed were all bisexual, that would make sense based on recent research that implies that men are far more bisexual than many of them would be willing or able to admit.

“[T]he call is ALWAYS coming from inside the house,” another poster wrote.

Some viewers did bring up interesting counterpoints, noting the relative smallness of the sample size and explaining that physical arousal isn’t always directly connected to sexual arousal.  Fair points, all. But it’s still interesting, especially in this current political climate, to think about how many men are either unaware of, or deliberately in denial of, their own queer desires.

One poster had an interesting theory. “[G]uys fetishize activities that are considered deviant,” they wrote. “If they consider gay activities deviant, that’s probably going to be more of a turn on than for guys who see it as normal. Also there are theories that fetishes come from strong feelings of fear or disgust. It’s the brain’s built in exposure therapy.”

There’s so much we don’t know about desire, physical attraction, and sexuality—but there are some things we do know. For instance, if your entire career is based around making anti-LGBTQ+ religious raps, there might be something much more complex—and contradictory—going on behind the scenes.

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Henry Giardina (he/they) is an Assistant Editor at Queerty. Past publications include the New York Times, The Believer, The New Yorker, The Paris Review Daily, The Atlantic, Film Comment, and Gizmodo. He is @punkgroucho on Twitter.

New Yorkers Are FED UP With Trump’s Secret Police

Trump Slump So Bad Fox Host Turns To Communism

 

Dem Leadership Can’t Stop Sabotaging Its Chances To Win

16-year-old Florida boy held in Israeli prison

A set of clips from The Majority report that touch on politics of democrats, the racism of republicans, and the economic crash / lies of tRump.

Sam Seder and Emma Vigeland unpack Bernie Sanders’s high-energy “Fight Oligarchy” rally featuring Zohran Mamdani. They discuss the disconnect between this grassroots enthusiasm and the lack of support from mainstream Democratic leaders. The MR crew argues that this demonstrates a core ideological conflict within the Democratic Party itself. 

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Republican Josh Breecheen spews Islamophobic rhetoric at a recent town hall, connecting to a broader pattern of fear-mongering and political attacks against Muslims in America. Emma Vigeland and Francesca Fiorentini draw a direct line from the “Sharia law” conspiracies of the Bush and Obama eras to the current dehumanization of Muslim Americans and the use of technology from the war on terror against citizens at home.

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The latest jobs report paints a grim picture, with job losses under Donald Trump’s administration mounting and key industries sliding into decline. While Trump’s team struggles to blame Biden while also promising explosive growth in the future, economists and analysts are sounding the alarm that a US recession, or worse, is near.


Billionaire hedge fund manager, Ray Dalio, is in the news for warning about the dangers of extreme wealth inequality. Sam Seder and Emma Vigeland highlight how Dalio’s comments, which are a major news story because of his status, echo what many others have been saying for years.

 


The U.S. government has acknowledged Donald Trump’s military strike on a boat in international waters, resulting in the deaths of 11 individuals. This action, targeting Venezuelans en route to Trinidad, has raised significant questions about Trump’s legal authority behind such a strike, particularly given the lack of clear evidence of the individuals’ involvement in drug trafficking or any threat to U.S. interests. Despite the gravity of the situation, the incident has reportedly garnered minimal attention in mainstream news, with some segments of the media appearing to endorse the action.


 

Trump was asked about a bizarre video showing someone throwing bags out of a second-floor White House window by Peter Doocy of Fox News. Trump insisted that the video was “AI-generated” because, according to him, the windows of the White House are “heavily armored and bulletproof,” sealed shut, and each one weighs 600 pounds. Trump also added that if anything “really bad” were to happen, he could simply “blame AI.”


 

A Moms for Liberty Leader Claims To Be a Nurse. Is She?

Hey if these people can outright lie about the LGBTQ+ community, willing to let LGBTQ+ kids die or be pushed via violence into the closet hiding who they really were, what is faking your expertise.  I already posted about a sexologist who had no experience with trans kids testifying to red state legislatures enabling his bigotry to further the harm to trans kids by giving an excuse for theirs.   These people are on a mission that is far from pure but one driven by hate and bigotry to make all kids pretend to be straight and cis in the hope that they can force all adults to pretend to be straight and cis also.  If they can’t force the adults to pretend to be straight or cis at least they can stop the trans adults from looking like the gender they identify with in hopes of stopping those that are passing as the gender they identify as.   This they hope will mark those people in ways that make their life harder.   Again their lies are OK for them because either they think their god approves or their hate is that great so nothing but the mission matters.   Hugs


https://www.unclosetedmedia.com/p/a-moms-for-liberty-leader-claims

Uncloseted Media has obtained documents that suggest a prominent member of Moms for Liberty may be falsely presenting as a nurse.

Responding to Kirk Cameron

This is a video on immigration and ICE / Fascism.   He points out Kirk is totally wrong on the facts.   Hugs

The trans community doesn’t deserve the hate it receives

What do you think about Texas GOP candidate burning the Quran?