https://gofund.me/5d1def2cc

Ok I know that as soon as most of you read the title you thought I was going to talk again about my childhood abuse.   

No what I need help with is for another abuse victim I have come to care a lot about.  He and I met through the abuse site and we bonded emotionally.  He needed to vent a lot of anger  / hate / why me stuff and I was OK with him doing it on me as long as he never attacked me personally.  He also came to care about me and the kind nature I shared with him.  He is much farther along in his therapy so was able to point things out to me far sooner than everyone here did.  

I think by now everyone who follows here realizes I am talking about Kamyk.  Pronounced Camick.  He got very ill shortly after we were friends and if you look back through the archives I asked and many of you did send him cards in the ICU he was in.  He has told me I can share his medical condition he has suffered from all his life and he blames it on both his childhood abuse and his father’s narcistic behavior he developed cysts on his colon.  One day he was talking to me telling me how much pain he was in and then he was gone.  Rushed to the hospital and placed in an ICU. 

Normally to do a GI surgery they have to void the bowels entirely but they simply did not have time and when they tried he crashed, so they rushed him to surgery and according to the surgeon it was the worst most dirty bowel surgery he ever did. 

 Sadly they had to take a large part of Kamyk’s intestines and his entire colon.  Kamyk wanted to die.  After a year of nearly doing so and many surgeries he was left with a couple stomas and an ileostomy.  He came so close to death that several times I asked people here to send him cards.  I know some did.  

Long story short, after all this time he got the ileostomy reversed and one of the stomas.  He could have gone back to his apartment he had managed to keep paying for … but the first nursing home he was sent to let him get a huge pressure sore on his tailbone that is so deep doctors are saying it would take a year to heal.  I get pressure sores and I know what to do once they developed, the pictures Kamyk sent me were so deep and so gross it is a violation of every medical rule I ever practiced under.  It was criminal. 

Sadly in a depressed area of the country one can’t sue a medical provider as all the other providers close their doors to you.   I mean if you sue a hospital in your area you better hope you never need a hospital again.  Unless you are in the emergency room dying no physician can admit you.  

Against all odds Kamyk has pulled through everything life thrown at him.  He aggressively started learning to walk again after one surgery left one of his legs not working.  He really wanted to get out of there and return to his home and I think we can all understand that.   Through it all on a very limited income Kamyk kept paying the rent on his apartment.  Until just recently tragedy struck in the form of the government and greed.

Kamyk was looking forward to going home from the step down care facility he was in.  But without his knowing the facility he was in made arrangements to transfer him to a nursing home.  The nursing home grabbed his entire SSI payment which meant not only did his rent payment fail but a recent device he had saved up for to buy also defaulted in the payments. 

I understand what he is saying as when Ron’s brother had to be put into a nursing home we had to jump through the same damn situation.  He was only allowed 30 dollars of his SSI payment but Ron had to stop his military disability payment of $100 dollars because that put him over the limit allowed to be in the nursing home.  Everything was so strict that Ron and his sister Diane had to pay what few bills he had, they sold his car, and they had to buy him anything he needed as he was not allowed to have any money build up in his bank account.   The system is designed to keep the person in the home as poor as possible, while letting the home take all the money and assets that person has.   It is the punish the poor republican idea of if they are poor then it is their fault.  

Here is why I am writing all this.  I was going to start a Go Fund Me for Kamyk.  He bought a Steam Deck computer device that would let him keep up with friends around the world and with me in a situation where he couldn’t use voice talk to communicate.  As you can imagine some of the things Kamyk would like to talk abut can’t be voiced loudly in a shared room.   Also he needs it is so he can play games with his friend of a decades Wolfy and escape from the horrid place he is in at least for a while, something every one I really understand.    I have worked in a nursing home for a few weeks and I can tell you that the residents in some homes don’t have much to do all day and don’t get much respect.  The staff is over worked, underpaid, and they are struggling also.  

I care deeply for my friend and have seen how horrendous this time has been for him.  He is in a very depressed area of the country in Ohio and he has no family in a position to help him.   

Kamyk has helped me do this by sending me a blurb and other information. They will be below.  Thanks and hugs.  

Kamyk’s journey has been incredibly tough, and it’s clear that every day presents new challenges. After enduring multiple life-threatening infections and a long recovery, the road ahead still feels uncertain. Living in a nursing home where their needs are often overlooked only adds to the struggle. One thing that could bring Kamyk some much-needed joy and connection is the ability to play games with their best friend in New Zealand. A Steam Deck and a secure backpack would provide a way to escape the pain and trauma, even if just for a little while. This small gesture could make a significant difference in their healing process. If you can, please consider contributing to this cause. Your support would mean the world to Kamyk and help them find moments of happiness during this difficult time. Thank you for your kindness and generosity. Best regards, https://gofund.me/5d1def2cc

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Update:  There was some questions as to the amount and what the situation was.  I wrote kamyk and called him about it.  He was able to respond after I went to bed.  

Gofundme is weird it only starts with a minimum, supposedly to get the ball rolling before showing the full requested amount. My full requested amount is $1000

Steam deck is $700, TSA approved slash resistant locking backpack is $80, a bluetooth headset i can use with the steam deck or my phone is about $40 which would allow me to talk to you, mark, or wolfy semi privately without the issues the earbuds have, and gofundme suggested the additional difference so i could get some more games

I also added further text to my fundraiser page explaining that my ultimate goal is $1000, and that it feels deceptive to me to rely on a marketing technique to get donations, so I clarified

Thanks to everyone that reads this, forwards it, and if possible can help.   I am sorry for the confusion I did not know how Go Fund Me works.   Hugs