The 2025 LGBTQ Year in Review: Lows, More Lows and Rumblings of Hope

https://www.unclosetedmedia.com/p/the-2025-lgbtq-year-in-review-lows

Here are Uncloseted Media’s picks for the most newsworthy moments for the LGBTQ community this year.

The good, bad and the ugly

Hello all.  I hope you are all having a grand Christmas.  I did.  I am … yet now I am struggling.  

See Ron’s sister has been with us for two weeks and she had been a great grand help.  She took over ever duty I had and helped me get back to the blog.   Plus she gave Ron a connection to his childhood and his youth.  Plus she gave me all her husband’s clothing and we are the same size.  So for Christmas I got a complete new wardrobe of shorts / pants / shirts / and dress stuff.   I was down to only two ill-fitting pair of old pants that hung off me.  So it was a timeless gift.  But her help was not done.

She brought big sister energy so while I have tried hard to get Ron to throw out old construction debris that he had piled in several rooms I never could get him to do so.  She did.  Then she got him to organize and pack away a lot of stuff he was just piling up.  I was so happy we got back to a having two rooms that we had lost to just Ron piling things in them.   But it gets even better.

She and Ron spent the time looking at places here that might fit her needs so she could be here in the winters instead of being up north and she has found what she wanted, she put in an offer and the people accepted.  So she will come stay with us on and off this winter and then next year be here full-time.  I love it.

Please understand I never had a caring sibling.  I met my wonderful “brother” Randy well into adulthood and Randy is everything an abused kid like myself could every hope for in a supportive sibling.  He has been the brother I always wanted … yet never had until a decade ago.  But Ron had a tight knit large family who cares for each other and really they do care and love each other.   Watching him and Diane this last two weeks has been amazing.  In a way I am jealous because no matter how hard they try to include me … they are in a world of their own past.  Having Ron’s sister as a part of our lives is going to be grand.  

So the adventure begins again.  She has already given me ideas on ways she can help if I wish.   But I love her ideas.  

Now the ugly and bad.  Off and on I have been struggling and doing everything to hide it from them.   Several times at night both the cat and Ron tried to wake me as I started to yell or scream out.  My nightmares have gotten much worse.  During the day while they were in the house I would come into my office, shut the door, and breakdown sobbing in tears.  I am trying so hard to hold it all together but the memories hurt so bad, they are there always now pushing at the walls I try to build up in my mind.  It used to be they were contained but now they are simply there, looking over the wall, shouting at me constantly trying to get my attention.  

I did what so many advised and I admitted to my primary care I needed help.  He was the first primary care I ever told of my abuse and he impressed me with how he handled the news and me after I told him.  But h           e sent me to their therapist on staff.  But she is a very young woman and she is a behavior therapist and I need a trauma therapist.  She is all about how to feel good, such as walk more each day, but I need someone to tell and get help for being a 3-year-old tied to the stair banisters with my arms strung up while I could barely touch the floor.  I was nude and sometimes I was blindfolded.  Either way I was hit or raped in this position.  I need someone to tell these memories to.  And it won’t be this 20 year old woman who wants me to think of how I can make my days happier by thinking of sunshine.  

So I have tried to do the best I can.  Tomorrow Ron will take his sister to the airport and on the way home get the supplies for me to make a tomato spaghetti meal for Randy.  Ron will make the meat balls while I make the sauce.   I will pretend I am OK and everything is great.  Yet inside I will hear the screams of a beaten raped little boy, I will ignore it while I make good for everyone around.    And when I lay my head down on the pillow after trying so hard to stop from doing so … the nightmares will come, the memories, the feelings, the screams trying so hard to burst out.  And I will control what I can, the cat or Ron will wake me if the noise from my mouth gets too loud.  A night of hopefully a bit of rest.   Only to wake early in the morning and get up to do it all again.   My life, over and over again.  Thank you for reading / listening.  It is hard to describe what my life is, but maybe this is the best example.  

Ron just went to bed.  He tried hard to get me to go with him.   He knows how hard it is for me and how it is getting harder.  The saddest point is he tries to help but doesn’t know how.  When I scream out at night he asks if he can hold me knowing that to just grab me or pull me to him will induce more trauma.  Having written this with the memories fresh in my mind I am scared to join him in the bedroom.  Yet I must.  How to finish this post?  I never wanted people to feel sorry for me, my life is what it is and what I have tried to make it.  Yet the idea of going to bed scares me.  

Yes I have a way to end this post.  As a kid from 8 to my teen years I would leave the local school and bike to the local town library in our little cow town.  I would stay there in safety instead of going home to be abused.   The local librarians must have known of my abuse because one of them gave me a book that described what abused boys could do to get help.  But like me they were afraid of the big bruiser gorilla that lived in my home that I had to return to.  So while I was not allowed to have books at home because that was not what a real boy did, they kept my books behind their desk for me … and every day I was beaten and every night I was raped.  But the next day I could go to that town library after school and lose my sore body in the books.  But no adult ever became my hero.  That was little Scotties life.  Good night.   Best wishes and hugs.  

 

 

Yesterdays news I want to share today or …

tRump’s illegal military war crime actions / tRump’s gift to the oil companies that paid him prior / This is a war crime and illegal / tRump trying to get other countries resources for his own profits / tRump grifts and seeking bribes 

Trump: We’re Keeping The Seized Oil And Ships

Trump: We Need Greenland For National Protection, I’m Sure We Were There With Boats 300 Years Ago [VIDEO]

It has nothing to do with US national security and all the minerals / traffic rights to make ships pay / and the “rare earth” metals that tRump wants a piece of.  It is about profit.   Hugs

 

Fox Host: The Vikings Are Gone, Let’s Seize Greenland

 

 

More Donors To President Liberace’s Ballroom Exposed

The paying tribute and bribes to tRump and his slush funds is so anti what the US should and used to stand for.  It is the very thing the founding fathers were most against.  The courts have gutted the holding of tRump to account but the emoluments cause is what this was designed to stop.    Ask yourself if Biden / Obama / Clinton had been so blatant in demanding bribes would you tRump cult supporters be OK with it still?   Hugs

 

Trump: Watch Kennedy Center Honors And Tell Me If I Should Resign To Be “Full Time Master Of Ceremonies”

 

$40M Melania Film To Premier At Kennedy Center

 

 

More Troops And Special Ops Aircraft Near Venezuela

 

Latest “Drug Boat” Strike Brings Murder Toll To 105

 

US Special Forces Expected To Board Oil Tanker

 

 

Jeff Landry: We’re Not “Trying To Conquer” Greenland

 

EU Leader Stands With Greenland Against Trump

 

 

FCC Bans Foreign Drones (Junior Sells US Drones)

 

Pentagon Adds Musk’s Pro-Hitler Grok To “Arsenal”

 

 


tRump’s handpicked legal lapdogs /  tRump legal woes / Canon still protecting tRump / ICE

Judge Blocks Jack Smith’s Final Report (For Now)

The appeals court told her to have it completely wrapped up by the first week of January and this is not doing that.  I expect more to happen fast with this.  She ignored the appeals court order to please tRump.

 

Axed “60 Minutes” Prison Abuse Expose Leaks Online

“There was blood everywhere, screams, people crying, people who couldn’t take it and were urinating and vomiting on themselves,” the college student from Venezuela who sought U.S. asylum, said. “Four guards grabbed me, and they beat me until I bled until the point of agony. They knocked our faces against the wall. That was when they broke one of my teeth.”

 

 

Bari Weiss Plans To Overhaul CBS News/60 Minutes

Voldemort: Everybody At “60 Minutes” Should Be Fired

 

 

 

New DHS Clip Turns Santa Claus Into ICE Agent

 

Voldemort Increasingly Targets Children Of Immigrants

Increasingly, he blames their children as well.

Mr. Miller’s belief that seven decades of immigration has produced millions of people who take more than they give — an assertion that has been refuted by years of economic data — is at the heart of the Trump administration’s campaign to restrict immigration and deport immigrants already in the country.

 

ICE Plans To Hold Over 80,000 Migrants In Warehouses

 

DOJ Sues After IL Bans ICE Arrests At Courthouses

 

Texas Builders Say ICE Has Crippled New Construction

 

 


Stupidity beyond belief and why do people believe it / Never challenge the dear leader / Cult of tRump

 

Trump: I’m Bringing Down Drug Prices By 3000%

 

Trump Screams That NY Times “Must Be Stopped”

 

Trump: Stephen Colbert Should Be “Put To Sleep”

 

Trump Shares Call To Have GOP Georgia Gov Arrested

 

Trump: Terminate Network Licenses For Criticizing Me

 

 


Hate / Bigotry / Racism / White Supremacy / Christian Nationalism / 

Oklahoma Instructor Fired In “The Bible Says So” Idiocy

Fulnecky has been trying to leverage her idiocy into a career as a MAGA influencer.

 

Erika Kirk Plugs Charlie’s Book In Xmas Message

 

 


tRump trying to hold on to power illegally / Jan 6th insurrectionists / trying to change the history everyone seen live / Scamming / Using the US treasury & taxpayer funds to pay off tRump cult members.  

Extremists To March On US Capitol “For Ashli Babbitt”

The U.S. Air Force will provide Jan. 6 rioter Ashli Babbitt with military funeral honors, reversing a Biden-era decision that denied her family’s request, according to a legal group that has represented her family.

 In June 2025, the Pentagon agreed to pay the Babbitt family a $5 million “wrongful death” settlement. Below, see the latest from Proud Boys leader Enrique Tarrio, who is himself reportedly suing the DOJ for $100 million.

 

 

19 Blue States Sue HHS Over Trans Youth Healthcare

 

 


US health system under tRump / US food safety under tRump / US health systems failing to protect the public under tRump

FDA Issues Yet Another Recall Of Radioactive Shrimp

 

VA Dept Bans Abortion And Abortion Counseling

 

Doctors Lament Record Rise In US Tetanus Infections

 


tRump ruining education / trying to keep students dumb and broke so wealthy have more power

Ed Dept To Garnish Pay Of Student Loan Borrowers

 


Epstein Files 

DOJ Seeks Holiday Volunteers To Do Epstein Redactions

 

DOJ: Mentions Of Trump In Epstein Files Are “False”

 

DOJ: We Just Found Over One Million More Epstein Docs

 

 


Some good news / People fighting back / Stopping ICE

Oregon Town Sues To Block Building Of ICE Gulag

 

Court: Trump Must Restore Disaster Aid For Blue States

 

DOJ Loses Challenge To New York Driver’s License Law

 

 

Here’s To A Peaceful Day To All

along with some positive news.

The City That Protected Trans People’s Rights in 1975

Fifty years ago this month, Minneapolis passed an anti-discrimination law so forward-thinking that much of the U.S. is still catching up.

By: Kate Sosin December 22, 2025

This article was originally reported by Kate Sosin of The 19thMeet Kate and read more of their reporting on gender, politics and policy.

Gay Pride Day on June 28, 1975 in downtown Minneapolis. Credit: Minnesota Historical Society/John Hustad Papers/Tretter Collection in GLBT Studies/University of Minnesota

It was likely one of the last pieces of city policy passed that winter, just before the New Year, a parting gift from a progressive city council.

On December 30, 1975, Minneapolis became the first city to adopt a trans-inclusive LGBTQ+ non-discrimination ordinance. Fifty years later, the United States still lacks similar protections on a federal level.

Minneapolis was special in that the right people were there at the right time, said Seth Goodspeed, director of development and communications at OutFront Minnesota, the state’s largest LGBTQ+ rights organization.

“Minneapolis, since the early ’70s, has really been a leader in the gay rights movement,” he said. “That comes out of a lot of the student organizing at the University of Minnesota in the late ’60s.”

It was home to Jack Baker and Michael McConnell, two men who, in 1971, figured out how to legally marry, the first recorded same-sex marriage in history. It was also the stomping ground of Steve Endean, who founded the nation’s largest LGBTQ+ rights organization, the Human Rights Campaign.

Endean started lobbying a city alderman, Earl Netwal, in 1973 to pass a gay rights ordinance. His timing was just right. In 1974 progressives won the mayoral race and the city council. That year they voted 10-0 to ban discrimination on the basis of “sexual preference.”

The next year, Tim Campbell, a local activist and publisher of the GLC Voice in Minneapolis, penned a trans-inclusive policy.

The council passed the ordinance on December 30, right before their term ended and a more conservative council was sworn in — one that would unsuccessfully threaten the ordinance later.

“I think it was a pendulum,” Goodspeed said. “The pendulum was sort of swinging back toward a more conservative mayor and a conservative city council.” (snip)

“You’re able to say, ‘We passed this two years ago, last year, in the past five years, and nothing’s really changed, there is no boogeyman under the bed,’” he said. “We’ve had these protections since the 1970s and all these fears that they might have … just never came to fruition.”

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The French City Striving to Stamp Out Sexism

From urban design to ‘gender-sensitive budgeting,’ Nantes is determined to create a safer, more equal place for women to call home.

By: Peter Yeung December 18, 2025

The public spaces in Nantes, a city along the Loire River in the west of France, might at first glance seem just like those in any other part of Europe. Across the city, there are numerous bike lanes, bustling fresh produce markets and pretty, historic squares.

But on closer inspection, there are signs of a profound attempt to make the city, its facilities and its built environment a more equitable place for women.

Hundreds of streets now bear the names of women, including Joséphine Baker, Frida Kahlo and Clémence Lefeuvre — the little-known creator of local specialty beurre blanc sauce. School yards, once dominated by soccer pitches, have been remodeled to incorporate spaces for calm and creativity. Stations for breastfeeding have been built in the city center to improve maternal comfort and visibly counter stigma. Free tampon dispensers have been installed in libraries, gyms and all kinds of other municipal buildings.

Boulevard Gisèle Halimi street sign
The new Boulevard Gisèle Halimi, named after the feminist lawyer (1927-2020), is located in the Prairie-au-Duc district on the Île de Nantes. Credit: Patrick Garcon / Nantes Métropole.

These initiatives form part of mayor Johanna Rolland’s bold plan to make Nantes, which is home to around 700,000 people and is the sixth largest city in France, a ville non-sexiste, or non-sexist city. From redesigning public areas to reallocating spending and inaugurating France’s leading center to counter gender-based violence, Nantes is trailblazing the way to safer, less discriminatory urban life.

“We couldn’t wait for change anymore, we had to take action,” says Mahaut Bertu, the deputy mayor of Nantes in charge of equality, the fight against discrimination and the non-sexist city project. “Femicides continue every year. Women suffer harassment every day. [To make change], we had to take a hold of the problem ourselves.”

Shortly after taking power in 2014, Rolland and her team set about carrying out research and compiling statistics on the extent of inequality in Nantes, since at that point limited information existed. 

The findings of the research, which included income, violence and public spaces, were striking. Analysis found, for example, that of the 3,000 streets in Nantes, fewer than four percent of them were named after women compared with more than 36 percent bearing men’s names. More broadly, it found that, in 2014, 58 percent of women aged 15 to 64 were employed, compared to 63 percent of men. And women represented 70 percent of the so-called “working poor” — those in employment but below the poverty line. 

From that understanding, city authorities went about introducing women-centered policy and ramping up investment. One of the most pressing issues was responding to gender-based violence.

In France, 99 percent of women have been victims of a sexist comment or act at least once in their lives, according to the French High Council for Equality, an independent advisory body. “Far from declining, sexism is becoming entrenched, even increasing,” its 2024 report concluded.

In November 2019, following years of consultation with residents, women’s rights groups and nonprofits, the city opened Citad’elles, a shelter for women victims of violence that provides free, centralized support 24/7 — something that to this day does not exist anywhere else in France. (snip)

This year, a pilot study is taking place in four of the schools to assess the impact of the new playgrounds. Fischer’s team is also working with school employees to help promote fairer use of the spaces.

At the same time, Nantes has an initiative to fight “period poverty” and to help reduce the costly burden of women’s sanitary products.

A few Joe My God posts I want to share. Maybe some other sources if I want to share them.

tRump’s failing economy / Taking credit for Biden stuff / Stopping clean energy to push fossil fuels / The environment. 

Jim Beam To Shutter Production Throughout 2026

 

Hassett: We’ve Deported So Many Workers That People Are Going Back To Their Old Construction Jobs [VIDEO]

This is not true.  The construction industry has crashed in Florida.   No workers so nothing being built.  Half crews means nothing built.  The work is far to hard for most people.   Hugs

 

Duffy Takes Credit For Biden Infrastructure Funding

 

Trump Halts All Offshore Wind Projects Over “Radar”

 

Ethics Watchdogs Alarmed By Trump/Fusion Merger

 

 

 


tRump being hateful and who he is.  

Trump Denies Disaster Relief For Colorado Wildfires

 

 

 


The grift and use of taxpayer money as a slush fund by the tRump people.

FBI Buys “Specially Armored Luxury BMW” For Patel

 

 


tRump wants to be or thinks he already is US royalty.   It is why he hates anything positive about the Kennedy family

NYT: How Trump “Adopted The Trappings Of Royalty”

In his first year back in office, Mr. Trump has unabashedly adopted the trappings of royalty just as he has asserted virtually unbridled power to transform American government and society to his liking. In both pageantry and policy, Mr. Trump has established a new, more audacious version of the imperial presidency that goes far beyond even the one associated with Richard M. Nixon, for whom the term was popularized half a century ago.

 

New Battleship Class To Be Named For Glorious Leader

Trump is expected to announce plans to build a new, large warship that Trump is calling a “battleship” and is part of his larger vision to create a “Golden Fleet” that includes as many as 50 support ships, according to people familiar with the matter who were not authorized comment publicly.

 


Bigotry / Hate / Racism / DEI Misinformation / White Supremacy

TX Judge Files Federal Lawsuit To Overturn Obergefell

 

 

WH Threatens To Defund Smithsonian For Wokeness

 

JD Vance To Turning Point: “In The United States, You Don’t Need To Apologize For Being White Anymore”

 

Johnson Vows To Place Charlie Kirk Statue In US Capitol

Vance: The US Was, Is, And Always Will Be Christian

 

DHS Triples Self-Deportation “Exit Bonus” To $3000 For Migrants Who Voluntarily Leave US By The End Of 2025

 

 

 


tRump’s illegal actions for oil.  

US Seizes Second Oil Tanker Near Venezuela Coast

 

Coast Guard In “Active Pursuit” Of Ship Near Venezuela

 

 


Epstein stuff / DOJ

DOJ Denies Redacting Trump’s Name From Epstein Files

 

Raskin: Calls To Impeach Trump Officials Are Unrealistic

 

Massie: We’re Drafting Contempt Charges For Bondi

 

DOJ Un-Redacts Epstein Docs After Contempt Threats

 

DOJ Halts Funding For Human Trafficking Survivors

 

Clinton Spox Calls On DOJ To Release All Epstein Files

 

 


The US health system

South Carolina Measles Outbreak Continues To Grow

Food Safety Experts: System Is Headed For Breakdown

 

 

 


Stupid health ideas designed to do nothing to help the people but to enrich the wealthy

Rand Paul: My Plan Replaces Obamacare With Amazon

 

 

Benny Johnson Goes Full Bigot At TPUSA

Pure Hate from a self hating gay man hiding his sexual orientation to grift the right Christian hate movement.  Hugs

A Steve Hofstetter Short

It’s pretty funny!

Entire Library Board Dissolved Over One Picture Book About a Trans Kid

https://www.them.us/story/randolph-county-public-library-board-dissolved-fired-trans-call-me-max-book

Randolph County Public Library is doing without its Board of Trustees for now.

A photo of Archdale Public Library.
Commissioners in Randolph County, North Carolina dissolved the county library system’s entire board of trustees last week, after the trustees voted to keep a picture book about a transgender boy on library shelves.
In October, the Randolph County Public Library’s Board of Trustees voted to keep the picture book Call Me Max on shelves despite some objections from members of the public. The book, written by Kyle Lukoff and illustrated by Luciano Lozano, tells the story of a young trans boy who asks to be called Max at school, eventually leading him to come out to his parents. The Randolph County trustees voted 5-2 to keep the book available, with some trustees reportedly commenting that removing or relocating the book would be a “slippery slope” toward censorship.

In response, the Randolph County Board of Commissioners voted 3-2 on December 8 to dissolve the library board and its governing bylaws entirely, Blue Ridge Public Radio (BPR) reported. Commissioner Hope Haywood, who cast one of the two dissenting votes, told BPR that the other commissioners’ likely intended to appoint new members, but that she had wanted to establish plans to facilitate that process first.

“Three commissioners didn’t see it that way. Three commissioners felt like, just abolish the board and then figure it out,” Haywood told BPR.

Minutes and video of the December 8 meeting were not yet available at time of writing. According to coverage of the meeting by local news website Randolph Hub, commission chairman Darrell Frye made bizarre comments about a member of his family he said had killed themself after being “brainwashed” on social media, apparently in reference to being trans. “It’s about, to me, exposing a child before it’s able to make a decision. It’s personal to me,” Frye reportedly said. Commissioner Kenny Kidd opined that dissolving the board of trustees was “a black-and-white issue,” and that “the soul of our children” was at stake.

“We adhere to the rules for the disposition of materials. We have the responsibility to serve all sides of issues,” trustee Betty Armfield reportedly told the board, adding that it was “parents’ responsibility to choose what they believe are appropriate books for their children.”

Call Me Max will still be available to check out from Randolph libraries in the wake of the commissioners’ vote, the county public information officer told CBS affiliate station WFMY. Still, Lukoff — who won a 2020 Stonewall Book Award for another picture book about a trans boy, When Aidan Became a Brother — lamented the vote and what it represents on Instagram last week.

“A library’s entire board of trustees was fired and replaced because they refused to ban one of my books. It’s so terrible,” Lukoff wrote. “I just feel so bad for the people who live in that community and love their library,” he added in a later reply.

Anti-LGBTQ+ activists have increasingly targeted local and school libraries over the past several years, particularly amid the rise in popularity of “Drag Queen Story Hour” events, some of which have been the subject of bomb threats and harassment from far-right militia groups. Tennessee officials have ordered libraries across the state to remove books with LGBTQ+ themes or characters this year, while in South Carolina, the York County Library board voted last week to move all books dealing with gender identity to sections for patrons aged 13 and older. One conservative activist claimed that move was necessary for “protecting childhood innocence.”

Issues of access to LGBTQ+ materials are increasingly landing in courts. Earlier this year, former Wyoming librarian Terri Lesley settled a wrongful dismissal lawsuit with county officials for $700,000, after she was fired in 2023 for refusing to remove LGBQ+ books from children’s and young adult sections of her library. (Neither party admitted wrongdoing as a result of the settlement.)

“People that want to keep pushing an agenda to go against these library materials and the First Amendment, I hope they see this, and I hope it’s a deterrent,” Lesley told CBC Radio in October.

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Dr Oz furious over ‘$150k penis surgery’ for trans youth – here’s the truth

https://www.thepinknews.com/2025/12/19/dr-oz-furious-over-150k-penis-surgery-for-trans-youth-heres-the-truth/

Dr Mehmet Oz, administrator for the Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services.

ICE tore her away from her wife. Now she’s suffering in an endless legal limbo.

https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/12/ice-tore-her-away-from-her-wife-now-shes-suffering-in-an-endless-legal-limbo/

Photo of the author

Greg OwenDecember 21, 2025, 5:00 pm EST
Guard turning keys to a jail cellShutterstock

A same-sex female couple in Pennsylvania is suffering through a “Kafkaesque nightmare” after one of the women was detained by Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) when she showed up for a regularly scheduled immigration check-in.

ICE agents detained her and shipped her to a detention center in California.

Xiomara Suarez, 28, arrived in the U.S. in 2022 seeking asylum after fleeing Peru, where she was stalked and endured a violent sexual assault based on her sexual orientation. In a sworn declaration to U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services officials reviewed by Advocate, Suarez said Peruvian police refused to acknowledge her complaints or offer protection, and she feared for her life.

Suarez was admitted to the U.S. on “parole” as her request for permanent status was processed.

In February, Suarez married her then-girlfriend, Grazi Chiosque, 29, an American citizen. The couple hoped to adjust Suarez’s immigration status and smooth the way for her to obtain a green card. They filed the required documents in May.

Before that request was processed, however, Suarez was swept up in a wave of detentions by ICE at courthouses targeting immigrants scheduled for hearings — only to be arrested and shipped to detention centers despite their legal non-criminal status.

Suarez was now one of them.

Chiosque says her wife is enduring degrading and isolating conditions at the Adelanto ICE detention facility in Southern California, where she’s been detained since September.

“There’s mold in the food,” Chiosque said. “You don’t have any privacy.”

“She was put into shackles,” Suarez’s wife added. “She told me that crying because it really made her feel like she did something that was wrong, and she didn’t.”

Far from expediting Suarez’s immigration status, the couple’s decision to marry may have only complicated Suarez’s legal claim.

Earlier this month, she was scheduled for back-to-back appearances with government officials. The first was with U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services to adjudicate her spousal petition. The second was before an immigration judge related to her detention and status in the country.

Chiosque flew from Pennsylvania to help Suarez through the process.

At the first appointment, a supervisor with Citizenship and Immigration Services told Chiosque, referring to her wife, “USCIS does not have jurisdiction because she’s detained.”

“The immigration judge would have to adjudicate on both,” Chiosque was told.

But at that hearing, the explanation flipped, Chiosque said.

“‘No, I don’t have jurisdiction on the I-130,” the judge told Suarez, referring to her spousal petition. “There’s nothing I can do.”

“If USCIS does not want to give you an interview,” he added, “contact your congressman.”

The couple had hoped their marriage claim would help expedite Suarez’s permanent residency. Now it was keeping her behind bars.

“USCIS says it’s not them because she’s detained. And the judge says it’s not them, it’s USCIS,” Chiosque said.

Suarez was returned to detention. Her next immigration hearing is scheduled for January 28.

The couple’s legal limbo is indicative of a broader, and intentional, pattern by ICE and the Trump administration, said Álvaro M. Huerta, director of litigation and advocacy at the Immigrant Defenders Law Center.

“This administration is separating and trapping families like Xiomara and Grazielli in a Kafkaesque nightmare, with the clear intention of making life so unbearable that they abandon all hope,” Huerta said. “It’s not only a policy failure, but also a betrayal of LGBTQ immigrant families who deserve dignity, safety, and the chance to thrive.”

“It feels like we’re begging,” said Chiosque, whose wife sits in detention a continent away.

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Greg Owen writes about politics and culture for LGBTQ Nation. An award-winning writer, producer and journalist, he was recently recognized for Excellence in Online Journalism by NLGJA: the Association of LGBTQ Journalists for his coverage of the 2024 election. He’s written for Q Digital since 2015 and for LGBTQ Nation since 2022.