I just cannot understand why they hate so. They refuse to understand or accept that some kids are born LGBTQ+ just as some kids are born cis and straight. They seem to think that children see LGBTQ+ people in society, in public, and in books / TV / movies then become LGBTQ+. It doesn’t work that way. They reallyhope all LGBTQ+ stay hidden either in fake loveless opposite gender marriages or stay single and celibate for life. They are not happy or content to live their lives as they wish, they demand the right to force everyone else must live as they do or by their church doctrines. Hugs
The video below shows a tRump administration nominee spews white supremacy crap, claiming the white people suffer the most discrimination in the US. Claims the white culture is being erased. But he can’t explain what white culture is except to claim that white Christians worship differently than black christians. Food and music are different and white churches and white food are being erased. Hugs
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Never go to Surprise, Arizona, it’s not a nice surprise at all.
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I’ve heard. Friend has a relative living there. He reports.
Also… “Like”
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Hi Bruce. From the link you sent it seems a deeply red die-hard maga place. Isn’t Maricopa County where that creepy sheriff was? Joe Arpaio was his name I think. Hugs
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That second one, with the kid that freaks out because he made an innocent mistake… I’m pretty sure he’s neurodivergent. I don’t remember the name of this trait but it includes going over and over past mistakes, overreacting (like that), and never being able to let it go.
I’ll find it again eventually. Unfortunately, I can confidently predict that I won’t remember where I saw it.
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Oh, it’s Rejection Sensitivity. It includes preemptory self-rejection to stop the extremely painful rejection by others. It’s disconcerting to anyone dealing with either side of this. (Unless they’re monsters who just see an opportunity to manipulate, of course.)
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Hi MDavis. Thanks for sharing this. It sounds like an extreme form of intrusive thoughts that hammer on people for innocent mistakes. I hope the cartoon did not distress anyone. I have seen people make a mistake and feel bad about using the wrong name or pronoun but never seen anyone with Rejection Sensitivity thankfully. I would feel the need to comfort that person if they reaacted that to making a mistake. Normally if it is a mistake and not done milciously every one just moves on with no hurt feelings. It is like when I mention my spouse and the person I am talking to might reply she is a lucky woman. I gently correct them saying something like I think he is. Only a few times have I had a negative reaction. Hugs
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In that cartoon, they probably did the best thing for him, just letting him overreact his feelings. It’s up to him to figure out how to deal with it – unless his friends recognize what he’s going through. Funnily enough, comforting him is problematic – he *might* feel that he is putting them out further over his mistake. Don’t ask me how I know.
I’ve had reactions like this, and I have a theory that it’s from growing up in a “don’t make the same mistake once” household. Or I did, until I saw a short video talking about this. Now I have questions.
Questions is not a bad place to start in this.
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I second this. In addition, I’m sorry that happens with you, even if only in your head. It happens in my head more than I wish it to even with working on it.
Here’s to questions and good work.
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Thanks! I’ve been in public facing jobs for the last 10 years now. It has forced me to learn to be better at letting things go. It’s now like I’m being paid to do therapy, but it is a side benefit.
I’m still not a fan of crowds, but I’ve gotten better at dealing with smaller groups of people.
Isn’t it a hoot to deal with!?
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It can be! Ah, well, we’re still here, so probably doing ok.
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Huh. I meant to say “it’s not like I’m being paid” but this works, too!
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You know, I think I read “not”, but looked up just now when I read your comment, and saw “now”. Yes, both can be true!🕊
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Thank you MDavis for sharing. I have always answered even the most invasive questions if they are asked in good faith because some people even in this day and age are totally clueless. I try to be a good ambassador for gay rights. Hugs
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I appreciate your candor! I appreciate your blog as well. I’ve read posts where you were far more patient with someone than I could have been. and posts that have been educational for me.
in this comment the questions on my mind are:
Am I neuro-spicy? It would explain some things. What kind, if so? Should I get tested?
I’ve been developing techniques for dealing with my life differently. It’s been a slog! A surprising number of suggestions have been from YouTube channels where the purveyor is neuro-spicy or talking about clients with neuro-spiciness. It might be a sign.
I just thought I was some category of neurotic.
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Hi MDavis. It is a good idea to get tested if you notice you react differently from others. I learned a lot about neurodivergent people from Barry. It is a vast spectrum just like sexuality. If you have questions he is a great one to ask. He is very open and honest about his own autism. Hugs
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I have been picking up on tips to deal with issues that may be related. I guess that might not be enough?
Do you know how you find legitimate testing?
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Hi MDavis. In my primary care doctor’s practice they have a therapist. More motivational than what I need but she tested me for PTSD and OCD. I imagine she could have tested for neurodivergence as well. I would ask your doctor if they can recommend someone to test you. Hugs
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I see him next month.
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