In keeping with my promise to the blog community and to Ron I started supper early

I decided I wanted grilled cheese sandwiches.  So at four PM I started supper.  And yes I made far too many as I can only eat one or one and half.  But here are the steps I go through to make good cheesy thick grilled cheese and ham sandwiches.  

I start with getting all the ingrediance out and ready. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you notice I have already buttered the bread.  I is important to use real butter and not a substitute as the substitutes burn before the bread is toasted, the cheese melted, and the ham hot.   Now to build the sandwiches.   

First the cheese on the bread.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I used two different cheeses on on each side of the bread.  Swiss and the other side colby Jack.  Then two slices of ham.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Then the rest of the cheese. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Then grill to perfection.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

But again I made too many.  I ate 1 and a half sandwiches.   I wish Ron was here he would eat the rest.  Hugs

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It is only 6:15 and I worn out

OK, people may be getting tired of doing these posts and I am sorry for that.  I got up at 4 am and that was after being awakened by Tupac smacking my hand repeatedly.  Ron reminded me when I cry out or growl in my sleep Tupac gets upset.  I have felt tired all day.  I forced myself to eat a brunch of three thick bacon strips cooked extra crispy, two sausages, three toasts, and four fried eggs. But that was all I ate all day.  I have no hunger.  Plus it is early and I have cued up so much to post.  But I am struggling to stay awake and function to do it. Taking the advice of so many here I am going to go to bed a bit early.  I hope being as tired as I am, I can sleep.  But as many of you keep telling me the news will wait and I am not the only news source.  Tupac has already gone to bed and I need to join him.  Hugs

A post I dont want to make but something is wrong with me.

So yesterday I posted about being disconnected from reality.  I am sorry I did not get to any comments today  I will do it tomorrow I promise.  Last night I tossed and turned and got up and simply walked the house.  I did not have a plan nor go online. I simply paced every room in the house mindlessly.  Let me explain it is worse than that.

I went to bed feeling exhausted, too tired to stay up, after making sure the cat got his medications and food, and then after an hour I was awake.  I tried every mind trick to keep my emotions at bay but nothing was working  and I couldn’t sleep.  But then something strange happened, not normal to me.  

I got up and went to the computers … and couldn’t focus on them.  I did not put ear buds in to listen to anything.  It was like my mind shut down and my body was on autopilot.  For hours I walked the house, room to room to room.   At 2:30 am my time Ron texted me a bit worried I had not responded to his texts, but I did not respond, I just paced around the house.   It would have been normal for me if I had had my ear buds in and sounds in my head, but I did not.  I simply walked the house and every room in it over and over and over again for several hours.   Then I sat at the computer, tried to do something, gave up and went to bed.  As close as I can figure I got two or maybe three hours of sleep.  

But the lack of sleep is not the point.  What was happening in my mind that caused me to walk like that?  I normally cannot go 20 seconds or more without exsternal imput into my mind.   But last night I had none of that and I don’t know why.  Looking back it was like I was possessed.  When I got up I knew I did it, but not why.   My mind was blank.  

Ron has often in the last decade forced me awake because I was crying out or struggling in my sleep.  Some of those he said sounded so strangled like I was trying to cry out while my throat was being closed off.  Ron was not here last night.  I was alone.   My queston is did my mind force me out of the bed and walk because there was no other way to help me from what I was remembering in my sleep?

All day today I have been off trying to get my normal posts done.  I have failed.   No other way to put it, I am failing at my posting job.   But I would love to hear what you guys think happened to me last night.  Because it is terrifying if I am just going to mind shut down and walk around.  What else might I do?  Hugs

I feel detached from reality

This morning I had an MRI on my lower back.  It all went well and was quick.  The reason for it is my right leg feels as if it is being tased and it makes it difficult and challenging to stand on the leg.   I took an extra dose of instant morphine and a muscle relaxer before the MRI, as those tend to be very painful for me to lie on the table in one position for that length of time.  

Since I got home I have felt more and more disconnected from reality  My pain levels in my back have increased so I struggle to sit in my desk chair and have had to take even more more pain relievers of all kinds.  But I still struggle, I am feeling lost like debrie in the wind of a storm.  Ron has contacted me three times to forcefully tell me he loves me.  But I feel lost, ungrounded, I find myself relieaziing I am simply staring into space or have not heard a word of what is playing on the video computer. 

Plus, Sam Seder is talking to someone about the abuse of Palestinians in Gaza such as how their lands are being torn from them and they are being terrorized, yet I find I am not registering large parts of the video.   I simply am missing large segments of the video and have to rewind to watch so much of it again.   I am zoning out.  I have seriously thought of going to bed.  So much pain and abuse toward people who have no way to fight back or protect themselves.  If I let my mind focus I am instantly thrown back to my own childhood situation as a child unable to fight back against all the abuse from much more powerful people who seemed to have all the authority behind them.  

But it is more than the normal remember, be very upset, cry, sob, and try to find a way to deal.  Currently I simply am lost like I am moving in slow motion as I struggle to focus on what I need to do.  I feel like I am on go …

I just realized that for some time, I am not sure how long I have had my head down on my folded arms on my desk.  I was not crying, I was not sleeping, I simply checked out.  This seems much scarier than when I sob and cry out of control.  For an unknown part of time I just checked out of reality.  This is not normal.  I am going to go lie down for a few minutes. Hugs


I went to lie down.  I had texted Ron with my situation.  I was just lying there not thinking, no intrusive thoughts which is strange enough, just checked out when he called all upset.  He offered to start for home right away.  I explained to him that was not needed.  I am not feeling upset.  Just lost.  Just like I don’t comprehend what is happening within my eye sight and hearing.  My mind was not registering what the inputs were.  I admit it feels a bit like when I had my stroke, everything stopped making sense for a while.  Anyway while I was laying down the medication started working and I feel a bit more connected to reality.  I am not writing this to upset or concern anyone but to try to explain what is happening to me in my life.  Thank you for letting me have a place to explain my feelings and for all of you who are willing to listen.  I appreciate it, it means a lot to me. I can’t explain how important it is for me to have this space to exspress my feelings / life and know the people reading care about me. Hugs.

I need your help looking up a meme / cartoon story.

Hello everyone.  I am looking for a meme / cartoon story I had a few years ago and can’t find again.  It is of a kid going out in the morning with a sign hanging from their neck down to their chest.  The sign said something like I am good and I am happy.  Then through the day every insult and attack on the kid tore pieces of the sign off so when the kid got home the sign was destroyed being just a bit of what they started out with.  I really want to find it again but every search I try to do fails to give me what I am looking for.  Thanks. Hugs

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#PTSD from What Are You Really Afraid Of?

Randy asked for songs, few replied, I have some from the other side, songs that have haunted me since I first heard them.

Do you have a secret you can’t tell anyone.   As a 12 year old I had to please my drunk adopting mother because she promised to tell me about my real father if I did.   She did not.  I had secrets I could not tell anyone.  

 

As anyone can imagine I spent most of my time either out of the house and away from danger or when I got one at 7 or 8 years old in my room listening for the sounds of footsteps and angry voice coming closer to me.   Hugs

 

This last one I played so often to drive my demon thoughts out and to ask the question in my mind there was no answer to.  When I cried why … well I know why, small town politics, fear of my adopting father, not wealthy but a man of great strength and fighting skill.  No one wanted to cross him.   Maybe some day I will find the answer.  Or at least peace.  Hugs

Sorry for this post.  I was really doing well today.   But the last hour everything crashed in on me.  In Star Trek The next Generation Data the unfeeling android has an off switch hidden but for those that know where it is he can simply be turned off.  Right now I want to turn off.  Where is my hidden switch that will keeps these damn intrusive thoughts and memories turned off.   Anyway I was going to make baked ziti for supper but I picked up three pounds of ground chuck and will use a pound to make sloppy joes instead.   Hugs

I have sturggled all day.

It has not been an easy day for me.  I did not sleep much last night getting up and doing things every few hours due to pain and the thoughts in my head.  This afternoon the intrusive thoughts got horrible.  While doing the dishes with The Majority Report on the kitchen TV I realized the thoughts in my head had taken over, I was standing there crying, and had no idea what the people on the screen were talking about.  

I struggled to get myself under control.  I did stuff all day.  When Ron called me from Texas I failed to tell him about my issues.  Instead I told him it was OK and to take all the time they both needed before coming home. 

Scared of going to bed I stayed up and started making a red sauce and got it pretty well along.  I let it cool and then put it on a trivet and put it in the refrigerator.   Then as I was getting ready to shut the computer down the YouTube app sent me this link to this the first video.  It is one when I first got to see it decades ago that I realized I had to own it.  I bought the disk even before I even had something to play it on.  I learned the song perfectly note by note.  At that time in my life hiding my past, and being in the Army I felt in some ways I was the hero of the movie.  I also felt I was in the part of the movie where the Indian boy tells the girl why he won’t make love to her.  You are anyone’s; it is how you were taught to accept love.  I want you to be special or some words to that effect.  That also I felt was me, I was anyone’s, not because I wanted it but because I had no choice, and yes sometimes it saved me or made me feel special. Weird how that works with an abused child.  

So YouTube being what it is, seeing I played the first song, sent me a second one.  One I love, one I have on my phone, one I use as a warning to myself and others.  If I start playing that song I am in trouble. I am crying now and very tired.  I will put both songs below, and the movie is much better than the one I am posting; the other I don’t even understand why I am posting, except I am tired, worn, and a bit scared and just want my thoughts to stop.  Have no fear I will go to the bedroom and snuggle the cat and get some rest if possible.  If not I will get up and keep plugging away.  It is what I do, what I have always done.  I just backed out a lot of what I wrote after this.  I realized while it was just me musing out loud trying to figure out how to move forward, that it could scare some of you.  So no need to do that. My seasons are not over, not yet. Hugs

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$534 to find out the cat is a drama queen who may get it from his two gay dads.

I am home and decompressing.   I had a very bad night.  But I guess I should start at the beginning.  

Ron left the morning of Saturday the 17th for Texas because his sister fell and broke her wrist.  This after her husband died and she needed Ron’s help to get her large home ready for sale.  She had returned here with him and I was so grateful for her being here as she let me get back to what I love, blogging.  But Ron being gone for three weeks was traumatic for Tupac who has seen the humans he loves go away never to come back so he clung to me the entire time Ron was gone.  He had already been coming to  me before Ron when he wanted something and at night he would sleep either on the pillow I put in the middle of the bed so he could lay on it and be made of by both of us or what he started to do while Ron was gone the first time he would lay between that middle pillow and my body.

So Ron left for Texas and I noticed that Tupac was staying much closer to me and to the house when outside.  He also did not want to go out as much.  Ron had noticed that there was a very large orange cat that was coming around to lay near the house and also a back long hair cat that was very vocal screaming at Tupac.  While the orange cat was trying to find friendship the black long hair seemed to want to provoke a fight or at least scare Tupac.  So I figured Tupac was staying close to home or inside since Ron left because of that.  Also since Ron left Tupac who is a bit incontinent leaking a bit on the places he sleeps and stuff started urinating on the floor as he was walking or eating, or even just sitting somewhere.  Now let’s get to the drama queen stuff and the big scare.

Yesterday the 20th Tupac stayed on the new daybed Diane gave us that was in the new living room all morning sleeping.   I heard him thump onto the floor.  I was in the kitchen getting ready to do dishes.   As he walked into the room I noticed he was limping on his right front paw.  But he seemed to be walking it out as he moved I just figured he slept too long on his right front shoulder.  So I gave it no more thought.   Then during the later part of the day he got up on my desk as he has gotten to love doing.  It is one way I have bonded with all our cats, they love the warmth the monitors put off and enjoy rubbing on them and other things on the desk.  I put a towel down and the cat sits next to the keyboard enjoying the pets and warmth along with companionship while I work.  It took a while for Tupac to understand that joy but he took to it once he did.  

So back to yesterday he was on the desk and I went to get a soda.   I heard a thump / bang and came back to find Tupac on the floor with his right front paw held high.   He was very upset and when I reached for him he hobbled away from me to the bedroom.   Then he stopped and let me put him on the bed.  He hobbled to my pillows and lay down.  I reached out to him and he swatted my hand away with no claws.  I started envisioning the worst. 

Yes maybe he gets his drama queen honestly.  I figured he either broke his leg or did damage to his shoulder like dislocating it.  He pressed hard into my side pillow very upset.  I let him be for a bit then went back to him.  He then accepted my petting him.  Still thinking he broke his leg / paw I brought him supper in bed.  Then I went to bed with him.  I did not try to push him over but tried hard to lay down on my side of the bed next to him.  He loved it.  He slept pushed hard against me as I laid on the edge of the bed worried to try to move him and hurt his broken leg / paw.  He never got up once which was not normal, but he did change position pressing harder into me each time, each time I woke and couldn’t sleep because I worried he would try to jump down from the bed.  I figure I got two and half broken hours of sleep.

This morning I again brought him breakfast in bed which he loved.  I tried putting him on the floor but he wouldn’t walk or put the paw down and I got even more worried.  I put him back up on the bed near the pillows and he settled back into them while I went and got my shower.  After all I had to take him to the vet’s office as soon as they opened.  After my shower I got two shirts out, one that he could claw if he needed as I put him in his carrier and one to wear out to the vet’s office.  

When it came ten minutes from the time to leave, I went out, started the van let it warm up, and then moved it into position to be more able to move him into it.  I then picked him up from the recliner I have put him in and he seemed fine with staying in.  He did not really fight or struggle to stop going into the carrier.  So I closed the door and went to change my shirt to the one I wanted to wear in the veterinarian’s office.  Remember I was on an emergency walk in so the bill was $150 to walk into the door.  

I have to admit the young woman behind the counter was very much sympathetic and on the ball.   Seeing my cane she carried the pet carrier to a chair for me.  She was very sympathetic.  Then who I would in the hospital say was a medical assistance who came to get me and Tupac.  Again seeing my cane she came and offered to carry Tupac into the room and set his carrier on the table.  She took all the information.  Again very caring person.  I explained my fears and how Ron was in Texas.  She was very understanding through it all.   I thought of my time in the hospital and how many of the people there had far less empathy and concern for the feelings of the patients or their families.  

The doctor came in and talked with me, heard my fears and concerns.  They took Tupac and did X-Rays and other checks.  After 30 minutes the doctor came back.   She showed me the two X-Rays they were able to get before old man Tupac got too grumpy to let them do anymore.  I guess veterinarians are used to that and let him calm down while the doctor came to talk to me. 

The X-Rays showed that he had no breaks in his leg or wrist bones.  They did show great swelling in his paw near the first two digits.  The doctor suggested he got his claw caught and wrenched it while jumping down from the day bed.  But she was not sure.  I asked about his shoulder and she told me he was too grumpy then but if I wanted they could try again.   I asked her to if she could as I needed reassurance he did not damage his shoulder.   She told me she also was going to look closely at his claws on that paw to see if he ripped one.  

Well letting the old grumpy moocher calm down worked.   They got the X-ray, no damage to the shoulder.   She was able to look closely at his paw and claws.  And it explained what the issue was.  He had what she felt was an infected first digit and slightly his thumb on that paw.  That was why his paw was so swollen.  She said it looked like a puncture such as a bite from another cat that did it.  I asked if it could be a puncture from a plant or other thing and she said yes, but she felt it was another cat that did it.  

So for an entire night of staying awake watching to make sure he did not jump down and hurt his broken leg / wrist / shoulder and feeding him in bed then carrying him to the recliner this morning and packing pillows around him while putting them on the floor in case he jumped down, to find out he had an infected swollen very painful paw.  The doctor gave me three pain pills to give him one a day, and they gave him an antibiotic shot to help with the infection.  

But who would have figured that two old gay guys, one who owned / ran a bar for gay people in the 1980s would have a furry drama queen child who milked a painful paw into getting supper and breakfast in bed and carried around like a little prince … Oh I give up.  Hugs

 

So an update and thank you for Kamyk, and Ron is on the road to Texas.

First thank you to everyone who donated to Kamyk’s go fund me.   He had to start it out at the minimum of $300 due to the rules of the site.   The real goal is $1,000 which will allow him to get the game, a secure pack for storing it, and a little left over for a set of earbuds and a few games.   Currently he has to have it set for $600 because the rules say he has to set it up in stages.   I don’t understand it but he sent me the goals and I put it on the page.  The current amount donated is $315.   Again thanks to everyone for helping if you can.  I understand if you can’t.  I can’t until next week when Ron gets paid.   This last week we had to put the groceries and medications on the credit card.  

Which leads me to the second update I want to share.   After I got home from my visit with Suzy Sunshine in which we both decided she couldn’t help me, Ron got a call from his sister.   She had fallen and broke her wrist a few days ago.   I guess it was bad.  So Friday around noon she called and was very upset.  Ron said he never saw her this way before.  She told him she couldn’t handle the situation of trying to show the home and everything along with the pain in her wrist that she couldn’t use for anything.  She wanted him to come to Texas and be with her.   It would be for at least a month maybe more and then she would be coming back to Florida in March anyway.  In two weeks she will have surgery on the wrist and will need the extra help anyway.  

Ron looked at me and I knew what he wanted to ask so I told him it was OK.  I understood the bond between him and his sister.  I understand he needs to help her in her time of need.  I was in a good place, I have the van and it is running well, and we already did the large grocery shopping.   I would be OK for a month and half if he needed.  So he spent yesterday afternoon packing and left in the car early this morning for Texas.  It is about 1,000 miles to where his sister lives.  He is going to do it in two days.   The good thing is it should give me lots of time to do all the blogging stuff.  Hugs